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PCG lead by example... then talk.. its hard to adopt and it takes a lot of emotional and social support to do it..
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Well if I do adopt, by that time the ladies who are now trying to conceive will be in menopause.
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The fact that you are offering a sollution which is only good to hear for those ladies and if you ask someone the standard reply should be
"I appreciate your thoughts sweety, but you see I have already donated $ 50 to **** charity in Pakistan. They are working for the rehab of poor kids."
Got the point. I dont think so.. :halo:
You are not considering the weaknesses we humans have in this materialistic world.
We even dont tolerate if our sibling sitting next to us stinks, we have 20 points list of “*The Qualities *” which we wana see in potential spouse, we even despise those desis who do not speak with a perfect accent and have traditional thinking …
In short we have our own shortcomings, which you are disregarding altogether sadly.
What you are offering is only good in reading and listening. In reality it is too hard to undertake.
There is only one Bilqees Edhi, who would give bath to unknown dead bodies and who will take care of countless infants, kids selflessly
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^ That kind of pessimistic thinking isn’t helping anyone out, is it? You should say that to the kids you see on the streets in Lahore asking to wash your car.
“I’m sorry, little one, I’d help you find a home, but guess what? No one wants you because people are weak. Sucks for you”
Like I said, unless you’re in a situation where you’re trying to have a baby and cannot conceive this thread is not for you.
Code-red, do you have a uterus? I hope not. Unless if you’d like to share with us what your real sex is…
:o
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Ok shoot the mesenger 
I should leave the thread, because what I am saying is what happens in real world. And you are living in Khawaboon ki dunya :halo:
What i am asking is that whole comunity should act, and what you are saying is that very tiny portion of that comunity should take this initiative. Which shows the level of indepth understanding you have, on this very severe problem in pakistan.
You know what, There are no real issues left for concieving a baby now. Roughly 10 % of the couples used to remain issueless few decades ago, the the percentage is decreasing with the advancement in medical science. You should know this better.
So in effect you are addressing the 5% of the total population, and asking them to come forward and do something about this problem. And asking them to take Huge initiative.
There are far too many kids on the streats.
Asking childless couples to adopt street kid and bring him/her to foreign land and spend 15~20 years in his/her brought up. Don’t you think it is asking too much for the sake of humanity ? Are desis any good when it comes to humanity ? No. ( accept it, along with few dozen other issues with us, this is also a fact).
Asking them to do all this would be a hogwash. impractical.
More practical would be to ask them to become a gaurdian of that child and let him stay in this country, but provide him basic needs and let him stand on his feet. Many people send there kids to hostels. Do day grow into any less capable or emotionally weak person ?
It would be far more easy to undertake and financially and emotionally less draining. Spritually and morally more uplifting :k:
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Well I looked into adoption, seems a bit expensive especially through international agencies. I contacted one in Albania but which runs in Toronto. The total cost would be about 25K. That is really too expensive!! Plus the home-study which is required for Ontario and the time it takes and all the questions they will ask me separate from my husband! I would prefer it to be like the mom giving birth and within 1-2 weeks I should have the baby. I would like to bond with the child from birth. But with all the paperwork/visas crap that goes on, they say it can take months. But I would still consider it maybe in the future when I am able to save up that amount of money.
I also tried to find out about adopting from orphanages, but it seems like this doesn't happen anymore. I got in contact with the Province of Quebec and asked them some questions and they were like "it is very very difficult to adopt children born here who live in orphanages" and that's it. I am like what does this mean? Does this mean it has never been done or they are just not willing? They never replied back to me after I asked these follow up questions.
So, I would adopt if it were easier and faster.
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Very interesting. I would certainly like to know if there are any agencies in Pakistan for adoption? Or i have heard there are yateem khanas where some people are helping these poor kids.
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^ The only services that I found for the street kids is this place called Bathool Mal (er, dunno if I have the name right). They said on pachaas minute that they keep the kid until grade 5. But one the kids on the stage retorted, that there's no issue about daytime activities, but that this place doesn't house them during the nights, so they're back on the streets...
Kinda tough to do your homework on the worn out side walks of tariq road while asking people if they'd like their cars washed...