Re: Adoption...(split thread)
When there are fertility issues, both choices are extremely time consuming, expensive and emotionally draining. Persue infertility treatments which may or may not work. Or start the endless paperwork, evaluations and interviews that are required for adoption.
Most that I know of want to try for their own biological child and stick with it until they either have success or until things look pretty dire.
Either way, its a highly personal choice and one that family and friends should be supportive of. Its stressful enough to go through all this with the support - but to go thru it with family and friends who arent supportive can be pretty darn devastating.