Adopting Earthquake Orphans

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Of course it is completely different than actually adopting a child. When you are not emotionally or financially ready to take on such a challenge of actually going through with an adoption, to me, sponsoring is the next best thing you can do. That's the way I see it, you are helping someone, really helping them at least put their feet on the ground rather than have no hope at all. We are all extremely emotional right now and whatever you decide to do, you should do it with a clear head.

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we also wanna adopt a little kid....and are trying to contact some NGOs......

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I commend all of you who are willing to do it, but just keep in mind that it is a life long task and takes a lot of dedication and effort (and please don’t think I am trying to discourage anyone here from doing so).

Actually, one of the easier ways to do something like it would be to become a member of one of the (reputable) NGO’s that are working in Pakistan. I can recommend HDF (Human Development Foundation) of Pakistan. I have used them before and have found them quite reliable. They have a program where you can become a family sponser by donating $15/month. I know it’s not a lot in term of U.S. dollars, but when you convert it into Pakistani rupees, it’s a decent amount. That way, you don’t have to worry about going through all the legal stuff and other issues that are involved in adopting a child.

Their home page is: www.hdf.com, and the page to sponser a family is: https://www.yespakistan.com/hdf/whatyoucando/donation.online.asp?referrer=http://www.yespakistan.com/hdf/ (click on Family Sponser link for more info)

May God bless you all.

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One of my friend sponsored little Afghani girl....last year i think..n she reguarly gets update on her....i think its a good way to help a child..if u r doing through a creditable oraginizations.... Since im not independent right now i can't adopt a child..but sponcering is an option for those who want to do something for children back home..
...Inshallah I'll be meeting her this comming weekend.. so i will get the details.

~ saray jhagray ana k hotay hein ~
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Guys, adopting a child is a life changing decision - I urge you to think things through and not act on emotional impulse. I think sponsoring would be a better option a lot of the younger posters that have posted in this thread.

If you are looking at sponsoring, Muslim Hands have lots of children from all over the world, including Pakistan. I'm not sure if their list includes children orphaned by the earthquake, but its worth a go.

For those of you that are worried about whether the money they send will reach the child, I'm pretty sure that with the bigger organisations, such as Muslim Hands, the majority of money that is sent goes directly towards the child's welfare. I know someone that has been sponsoring a child in one of teh African countries for years - he recently went out to visit some friends in Africa, and took a detour to see the child he has been sponsoring. it really was a beautiful experience for him.

Please also look at whether you will be able to maintain payments. One of my cousins sponsored a young lad, but after a year decided he could nolonger afford to and stopped. I'm in no position to judge, and Allah knows best I guess, but it just seemed totally unfair on the child. In my opinion you should only sponsor a child if you think you can maintain payments until the child is atleast 16.

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waqee sochnay ki bat hay

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I soo want to adopt a kid too ..i just talked with family back in pak , and my aunts friend is going to the area with her hubby they dont have ne kids n they r going to adopt 2 kids :k:…

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Couple of things before you all adopt children…

  1. As Muslims, you cannot adopt a child, you can however raise an orphan…What’s the difference? You cannot give the orphan being raised your own name…He/she must know that the caretakers are not really their parents…

  2. Once you start raising an orphan in Islam, you have double duties…The orphan must be given even more care than your children…It’s like second marriages, there can be no iniquity…What is iniquity? If for one instance you treat the child unjustly, you are answerable to Allah :swt:…He can forgive you as parents for being iniquitous towards your own children but no iniquity will be forgiven against an orphan…

In Islam, except for the inheritance part, orphans have more rights than even your own children…

  1. If you can handle these things, then go for it…May Allah :swt: make it easy on you all…
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ISLAM HAS SPOKEN

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bless you legally brown for posting this thread... there would be many poblems involved as there still isn't a structured way of doing so in Pk, and we don't know whose custody these kids will be going to... but may be we can adopt them without taking them away from their families and by sending monthly stipends, and keeping a track of their progress... if you have a bank account in a western country you can jus send the moeny through direct debit and its not that expensive as the cost of living is much lower in Pk.

^^^ Oil vs. Acrylic ^^^
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i have always wanted to adopt a child , infact more. but couldn't do so for two reasons, i am a student myself and don't know if i'd be able to do justice to the said child or children,, secondly if I adopt a child and took him/her back with me people back home would probably think that maybe I got pregnant somehow and the children are illegitimate. So i prefer the direct debit method.

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for all those who are saying its a tough process and all, indeed it can be. the reason they make people go through the homestudies with counselors is to ensure that ppl willing to adopt are really ready, willing and able or that they are not. Anyone who goes through it and is not really ready will be weeded out.

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In adoption, I didn't think it was necessary to confer your last name onto the child...

By saying "you cannot adopt a child", you just confuse people. Adoption is exactly what "raising an orphan" was back in the Prophet's time.

Please stop discouraging people from using adoption services. If it wasn't Islamic, then Pakistanis wouldn't be using the word "adoption".

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secondly if I adopt a child and took him/her back with me people back home would probably think that maybe I got pregnant somehow and the children are illegitimate.

This reason should really not stop you. Who cares what others think. But yes, being in college/HS is not the right time to adopt.

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sorry lajawab, but this does not work. The big issue with adopting from Pakistan is the fact that pakistani courts do not accept ‘adoption’ but guardianship. its a question of semantics, call it adopted or call it becoming a caretaker.

So if you want to bring the kid abroad, you can not because legally a guardian is not the same as an adopted parent, and that is why adopting from Pakistan has an extra layer of complexity.

secondly, it causes a whole lot of trouble for schooling, and btw what do you ask an adopted orphan to write in the column “father’s name” or parents name in their records at school? should they write “unknown”. It just does not work. do they make up a name? or do they write your name? what do yoiu want them to call their adopted parents, mom and dad, ammee. abbu, or caretaking unit#1 and caretaking unit#2?

as far as adopted kids hearing from the adopted parents that they are adopted, that is what psychologists recommend also, because they do not think that a child should discover it by accident or by chance and then feels betrayed, lied to etc.

Anyways, whether you go about it one way or the other, the end result is the same, a child in need gets a chance call yoursels the adopted parents or caretakers.

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See, this is WHAT HAPPENS.

Just now, I got a call from a client of my father’s. She is Chrisitian or Jewish (can’t tell from the first name really).

She is looking to adopt a child.

:mad:

This is how, you have perfectly good muslim children, who end up in the hands of non-muslims, and this is how you lose muslims.

Now you come here and tell me that Adoption is haraam, and I’d say that if I ever saw you in person, I’d swing a broken bottle of wine up your head.

^^^ Oil vs. Acrylic ^^^
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What is SOS?

Salgirah Mubarak Malik Zulfi
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SOS children's village in Lahore

great khan: ignoramus or closet jehadi sympathiser?
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btw please read this link to understand more about adopting from Pakistan

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Contact these people. They maybe able to use your help...

Charity fears for Pakistan pupils
Child survivors
It is feared many child survivors may have been orphaned
A UK education charity fears many of the 900 pupils at its schools in Pakistan may have been killed or orphaned in the South Asia earthquake.

Learning for Life said children were in class at the time of the disaster - and there has been little news since.

"I'm nervous and afraid of what we will find", said Ujwala Samant, director of the body - which has 19 schools in some of the worst hit areas.

Saturday's quake left 23,000 people dead and affected up to four million.

Missing worker

Apart from the possibility that many pupils may have been killed, Learning for Life is concerned that others have lost their parents, or have been separated from them.

We have to be there for the reconstruction and rehabilitation of people
Ujwala Samant

Workers linked to Learning to Life are travelling to the areas to try to discover what happened to both the pupils and the school buildings.

There have been suggestions that four of the schools could be saved, said Ms Samant, but others are in areas that have been flattened.

Ms Samant is hoping to start getting more details on Thursday, but because it can take days to travel from one school to another in normal conditions, it could be weeks before the charity gets a full picture.

'Huge step'

Rebuilding the schools will also take time, in towns that desperately need them says Ms Samant.

Having a school represents "a huge step forward to the community in terms of education" she said.

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In particular, the community-run schools have an above-average number of girls - with 45% currently attending and steps being taken to attract 60%.

Rebuilding them could take many months, but Ms Samant fears that people could soon forget those affected - just as winter sets in.

"We have to be there for the reconstruction and rehabilitation of people.

"The tsunami got a tremendous response and Pakistan needs the same respect and affection."