cb and munni and sadz, I appologize, i was abit overreacting :)
I v my personal reason 2 say the things i wrote above.
I didnt mean to offend annyone, and I was bad generlizing and all :)
so again my appologies
its arrite :) i know a lot pakistanis sirf hawa mein bathein karte hain... lekin there are some genuine people out there who will Inshallah do what they want..
..i hope i can do something as well.. Inshallah...
and dont worry bout it.. we all generalise (there u go.. i just did a generalisation too)
Similar to Jal_Pari, I have always had this desire to adopt a child from Bosnia/Afghanistan, etc. cause it is doing a good deed and I believe I would be able to provide a better future, additional love and more stable environment to the child. Of course, I would want my husband's (assuming I ever get married) support.
I was actually supposed to be adopted by my God Mother who can not have children. I ended up staying with my own family but my God Mother and I have always had this special bond as a result of her nearly having me as her own when I was a baby. :) It's a very special relationship.
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thats coming from a pakistani male :)
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thats one out of a million guys who says that :)
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its arrite :) i know a lot pakistanis sirf hawa mein bathein karte hain... lekin there are some genuine people out there who will Inshallah do what they want..
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YEsssssssssssssss thats what I mean, pakistani and indian do that alot ( 90 % or so ) :)
yeah :) but the people on this could be genuine right? and neways its the thought that counts... if some genuinely wants to do something good for the society.. but is not able to.. i think they should be appreciated for their deeds... but if someoen is just doing it to get some attention or get into the spotlight... then well... Allah Mian knows best
My fathers friend adopted a girl when he went to Pakistan. He is Pakistani, and he is very happy in the decision he made to adopt her, eventhough he is raising her by himself now. (He got divorced.)
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and neways its the thought that counts
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:) I agree, I wont give comments further :)
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.....something that i always wanted to do....raising a less fortunate child probably would give me the chance of doing some good and having a purpose of life before i die.
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:~) You stole the words that describe exactly how i feel about this issue. In some continents, in less than twenty years from today the total number of orphans is expected to top 10 million. To put that into perspective, that's roughly a 1/3 the population of Canada. 10 million orphans - no one to look after them.
Manifestly, from an Islamic pov, to take care of orphans (and widows) is a form of true jihad. i can't imagine many things that are better than giving an orphan an opportunity to grow up with love & shelter.
Re: Adopting a child
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I have always wanted to adopt a child, whether I be a single mother in doing so, or married. Insha'Allah. Atleast thats the plan.
I remember talking to a rishta I had once and I asked him if he'd consider adopting, and he was totally against the idea. He said he wanted "his blood" child only. At that time I thought it was a bit selfish of him, but now I realize that its a personal choice and not everyone can deal with it, and so its best that some people steer clear of adoption.
As you know, in Islam adoption is allowed but the child is supposed to keep the last name of the biological father(if its known), and the child must be told he is adopted at a certain age.
My question to you is, would you adopt a child if your spouse wanted to adopt? Why or why not?
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I would definetly adopt a child,if my husband wanted to.For a while now,Iv been thinking.That you know to give an orphan a home...it would be such a rewarding experience.To see a child smile and have happiness because you decide to care.Iv even talked to my parents and my mom gave me the desi viewpoint.She said they dont have anything against it,but my future husband might.
She said a lot of desi people might react weirdly to this idea.She said my future husband might not be for this idea.But I dont see anything against it.There are so many orphans and hopeless children...that to take one of those into my home....it would make me think Iv actually done something worth while in life.
At the moment Im part of an organization that helps needy children ...and in the future I would like to do more.And Insha Allah I hope to be able to help the children in need.
I was thinking that whenever one of us does adopt a child, insha'Allah, we can share our experiences, as that would be great support for one another.
I would also like to add another thing, from the responses that have been given in this thread.
I have noticed that some fellow guppies have stated that they would like to adopt, so as to do one good thing in their lives. The fact of the matter is, there are many ways to do good in this world, not just adoption. For those that never adopt a child, that does not mean they havent done something worthwhile in this life, that they can look upon with satisfaction. Adopting a child is one of many good deeds a person can do, and infact adopting a child in itself is not a good deed, adopting a child and providing him a proper upbringing is a good deed. How many children have been adopted and you hear the ill treatment they were given.
So if you never adopt a child, do realize that there are many ways to do good in this world, thats all I wanted to add. smile