Adopting a child - impact?

[PashtunWarrior]

Re: Adopting a child - impact?

@Sasha21

Adopting a child is allowed in Islam as long as the general community knows that it is not ur biological child. U don’t have to go around shouting it in the streets but as long as u tell ppl word always gets around. As far as the last name is concerned, u can keep the baby’s name the same as before but I read up on this at some point (I don’t remember why) and u are also allowed to give them ur last name for paperwork purposes. Because i think its quite a hassle for paperwork throughout ur life (and when ur initially bringing the baby over to whatever country u stay in) so to make that easy its allowed to give them ur last name (as long as u r not doing it specifially for the purpose to pass him off as ur own). That means that as long as ur general community and relatives are aware that the child is not biologically urs ur good to go.

The general rule of thumb is to have someone who is a
Shariah inheritance laws do not apply to adopted children so u would have to specify in ur will what u would like to leave to that child. Best case scenario is to somehow have the baby breast fed by a close relative (whatever renders the baby mehram to both u and ur husband). However it is not necessary that they will also be a mehram to ur biological kids. In fact I wonder how u might do it so that baby is mehram to all? The grandmother breast feeding the baby? I’m a little hazy on all the specifications for being mehram. I think all maternal paternal aunts and uncles and their spouses right? Anyway this specification is always difficult to fulfil all the way around because even if ur sister breastfed the baby, the parents would now be mehram, but their biological children would tehnically be first cousins to the baby and therefore namehram. Yup that’s a doozy.

The general rule of thumb is to have a close mehram from the father’s side breastfeed if the child is a girl and a close female from the mother’s side if the child is a male. Generally the milk relatives are the same as the biological. Your meharams are your parents, grandparents and their parents …, siblings, parent’s siblings, siblings’ children, children and children’s children …

The siblings will become mehram of the child and the parents this way. According to most schools of thought the breastfeeding has to be done within the first two years of the child’s life at least once to a minimum of five times.