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^ apparently its possible through induced lactation. there is a drug for that.
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no way 
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Yeah, you can get pills to bring it on + some women can even 'trick' their bodies into believing they're pregnant (mentally and physically) and produce milk..
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guys and girls
please realize that in the end its the intent that matters most.
we talk about adopted kids and biological kids being na mehram, but d we worry about it with cousins hanging out? or family friends?
we talk about na mehram status between a gu and his adopted daughter, true, but is that a concern for uncles and their nieces? do guys or girls look at their nieces or nephews and check em out...oh yeah baby..? no..right.
we talk about an adopted child not a part of inheritance, but how many people would see an adopted child getting something as the child stealing their right to a sibling's estate
We have to think what is rational and where good outweighs the potential bad.
look adoption is not for everyone. There are many ways people can support orphaned and abandoned kids, believe me, they need help. years ago I had posted pics from the orphanages I had been to to let you see the conditions they live in, and some observations. i may have to dig it up again. but that is a whole diff topic.
we can find these things such as yeah nurse the kid and the na mehram thing goes away between kids, or gift the kid in your life or have relatives give up their claim on inheritance in benefit of that kid. but why are we looking for loopholes? the same type of loopholes allow me temporary marriages (whether it is misyaar or muttah realize that a good chunk of religious holy rollers accept them as valid practices)
laslty, to some it may sting, and by 'some' i don't mean anyone in this thread or forum, but type of people. when someone who does not follow some basics of islam in terms of prayers or modest clothing etc bring up the na mehram issue...what can you say at that point.
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Dont get me wrong, I am all for adoption, I just think its too much to trick your body or take pills to get milk just so that the kid u adopt is mehram.
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Apparently, there are are so called "Muslims" here who claim that the mehram/na-mehram issue takes precedence with Allah SWT over helping a child. Why don't you guys say clearly that you don't want to/ don't like adoption, instead of using Islam to discredit helping others?
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Dont get me wrong, I am all for adoption, I just think its too much to trick your body or take pills to get milk just so that the kid u adopt is mehram.
As I said, the issue is more in minds than an issue in practical life. whether it is mehram status or inheritance issue or naming.
for a mehram POV.
my mother or sister did not walk around the house in tank tops and shorts anyways. and I don't think in our culture many mothers or sisters do.
so being careful about clothing is not a massive issue except for those who are very observant of hijab in front of everyone who is na mehram, relatives included. wearing in front of your adopted child what you wear in front of nephews is the same.
so if it is not the whole dressing at home thing, the fact that technically you can marry them and vice versa does not mean that an adopted kid would think about getting jiggy with his mum or vice versa. or with other kids growing up in the household.
I can see where some concern comes from, the rather open mixing of cousins in Pakistan and the extremely high number of inter-cousin marriages may make people think that if it can happen among cousins, than two people growing up under the same household and raised by the same family, if religiously they are not prohibited from doing it with each other, they may just get involved. It says something...i don't know what specifically, and about who...but there is something there that is rather troubling.
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way to go
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i dont know which part of Islam says that you cannot adopt.
Why do we make our lives so difficult...
God bless all those who have adopted and who will be adopting.