He who trims himself to suit everyone, will soon whittle himself away.
Do you agree? How do you know that at a point you need to stop adjusting to others because you will lose your personality?
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i only adjust myself when i know i am wrong or when i know my loved ones will be hurt coz of my actions. otherwise i hardly care and do it the way i want it.
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But I've seen people have to adjust a lottt in situations for example after marriage... people change a lot... give up their real selves to be accepted, is that okay...?
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But I've seen people have to adjust a lottt in situations for example after marriage... people change a lot... give up their real selves to be accepted, is that okay...?
It depends what your giving up, if your 'real self' is a selfish and greedy backstabber then it would be better for you to give that up.
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But I've seen people have to adjust a lottt in situations for example after marriage... people change a lot... give up their real selves to be accepted, is that okay...?
it depends on what your real self is.
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He who trims himself to suit everyone, will soon whittle himself away.
Do you agree? How do you know that at a point you need to stop adjusting to others because you will lose your personality?
Depends. You don't want to be the one adjusting for everybody or you might end up becoming a doormat.
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i only adjust myself when i know i am wrong or when i know my loved ones will be hurt coz of my actions. otherwise i hardly care and do it the way i want it.
Me too..
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Some people may realize that they need to stop adjusting to others when they feel exhausted/overwhelmed by squashing their own opinions/goals/schedules, to please others. When it starts taking a toll over them.
They may even realize it when others start treating them like a doormat. While I agree that some compromise is necessary (and especially if you know you're in the wrong, as mentioned above).........you do teach people how to treat you. And if you're always bending over backwards to accommodate for the needs of others.....not only can the other person take advantage of you....they may also lose respect for you and get turned off because your individual personality does not come or shine through as much. The fake-ness (which can result from adjusting to others) can be off-putting.
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you should only adjust yourself when you feel that doing what you are doing will hurt others.............you shouldn't have to change yourself just to please others true friends will accept you for who you are
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Adjustments are necessary in a marital relationship. I dont think its good to constantly adjust to each other and lose yourself. You have to teach each other how to live together.
If both parties do not compromise, one ends up bitter. So, its good to adjust but not to the point where you start to feel bad about doing it.
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LMAO! Hold on a second, let me adjust myself!