Adjusting in marital life .....

[ehl-e-chamman]

Re: Adjusting in marital life …

based on 5 months of marital life …

@DaffyDuck

How did you to adjust to changes after marriage and how long did it take you? changes like e.g.
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• You have to cook yourself
  Had to cook for myself before marriage as well. its just as easy to cook for two as it is for one and nice to have company for meals.
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• you have to wake up early to give breakfast to husband or parents-in-law
  **don’t have to wake up early!. Part of living together with someone is that you adjust to each others schedules.

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• you have to maintain the house i.e. laundry, dish washing etc
  Did that before getting married as well! … don’t most people (whether they live at home or away)?? At least now I have someone who can lend me a hand.
• If you are changing the country, how did you adjust to the new place and how long did it take you
  Didn’t have to go through that one. Thank god.
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• If you used to work before marriage, how did you adjust to the fact that you wouldnt be working after marriage if you were a career oriented sort of woman
  I’ve continued my career post-marriage as well. Its a topic we had discussed before Nikkah and came to a mutual understanding.
• There is some one you will have to take permission from
  ehhh? don’t know what you mean. Your husband is your partner not your father. I haven’t had to get “permission” for anything so far … however, as I now have a second person in my life I do keep in mind how my actions/in-actions will affect their life.
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• There is some one who has the right to say No to what you want some times
  **There is always that in life. Be it your boss, siblings, parents, friends, the bank, potential employers. Dealing with “No” is part of an adult life regardless of marital status.

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• If you previously lived in Pakistan, a large part of the work was done by maids, how did you adjust to the change that you will have to do everything yourself
  Didn’t and still dont live in pk.
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• You are the responsible person, now you cant leave things on your parents or siblings, you have to do them
  ehhhh?? … if one was leaving “issues of responsibility” to parents/siblings before marriage … it shows they weren’t yet equipped to get married. signing off on the nikkah papers doesn’t suddenly make one capable of amazing new feats … certain things … like “responsibility” needs to be acquired and demonstarted before taking on another person … just my 2 cents.