Adab (Respect)

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about smoking in front of elders and had a similar conversation with another about drinking when of age in front of parents. Their responses were at opposite ends of the spectrum.

One had said that s/he would not smoke in front of their parents. I asked why? s/he responded, its out of respect even though they know that s/he smokes.

While the other drank and smoked in front of the parents and with them at occassion; arguing that its already known, why hide this act. It brings them together as friends instead of just having a parent/child relationship.

For the life of me I can’t understand why is it different. You smoke but you don’t in front of them. Then the other does it all. What gives?

If your friend truely respects his elders then he should quit smoking. Who is he kidding by smoking behind the back. Replace smokes with whores and you will see what I'm sayin.