No matter who the beloved ones are, I have mostly observed 3 kinds among people.
1. They would love to keep saying “I love you dear” but their actions shows that they would mostly like to love you but not at the cost of losing their own comfort or by giving any sacrifice.
2. They would keep sacrificing and compromising without uttering a single word for expressing their love.
3. They mean what they say and do prove it practically when they say "I love you"
By beloved ones, I mean anyone who is related to you in any way. Parents, friends, relatives, lovers…etc.
Do you find actions or words to be stronger expression of love ??
actions, of course. words are meaningless unless the person backs it up with their actions. anyone can promise you anything or tell you anything about their intentions- in the end, its how they behave with you that shows you who they are.
2. They would keep sacrificing and compromising without uttering a single word for expressing their love. I think, my parents generation belongs to this category. Perhaps Im a copy cat of above. I used to be good at expressing my love to my husband. After the shock he gave me, I never uttered those sacred words again. I knew, they had not been well received. It was taken as my weakness, rather than for what it was: unconditional love, mainly because he has ultimate religious knowledge. It takes a lot to belong to this category. Most spiritual women Ive known have been exactly this sort of type.
3. They mean what they say and do prove it practically when they say "I love you" This is a good practice for men. Women should withhold from it. The more you show your love in words & action, thus the less attractive you end up in your husband´s heart. Its old hunter mentality. Dont call em, then they are puzzled whats up. A good trick is to surprise now and then. Its keeps the "game" intact. Be creative, men love to be under the spell of a romantic wife......
For my family and only friend Ive got.....Lily: I express & act accordingly....... Perhaps it has something to do with not having fear. I know, they can not disappointment or hurt me. Its mutual all the way. Ive taught them to also give at times and not only be in receiving end due to my love for them. At personal level, Its a dead zone. Ive decided, Im through with the institution of marriage, whenever my divorce matter seattles. In a perfect world, it would had been great with follow up of the words: You are my soulmate. You make me content. You are my best friend. You will be the mother of my kids....... *
*"Bohot be-aburuh ho kar tere kuchay se hum nikay...** Hazaaroon khwahishiein aysi ke har khwahish ke dam niklay Bohot nikay mere armaan leikin phir bhi kam niklay"
I'd prefer action. I dont tell my parents in words that I love them. But I will send them a card that says it. afsoos I feel shyyyyyyyyyyyyy, its horrible.
