Does it generally happen that if a romantic partner has cheated, or has done something that would make the other partner angry [the other partner doesn’t know yet], he/she would behave more nice towards their partner than they ordinarily would?
Re: acting nice out of guilt?
too many ifs and buts, i.e. the scenario is too complicated! :D
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]I don't know if it generally happens, but it can and it makes sense. Some people will overcompensate with kindness whereas others become distant and more irritable; they might search for flaws in the partner to "validate" their betrayal.
Re: acting nice out of guilt?
]I don't know if it generally happens, but it can and it makes sense. Some people will overcompensate with kindness whereas others become distant and more irritable; they might search for flaws in the partner to "validate" their betrayal.
Completely agree with red. When my ex-husband was cheating on me he would become extra irritable and couldn't be bothered. However when his gf's used to dump him because he didn't want to leave one marriage for another, he would become extra sweet for a second so I wouldn't leave.
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Ufsana, how did you find out he was cheating?
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He had the same telltale patterns all the time. Late night chatting/emailing/im'ing (which he would leave open carelessy at times) and nonstop texting. He then started sleeping with the phone and put a password on it and made sure to erase his messages daily. He left dirty pictures on the computer. The phone records (we shared a cell phone plan) would show him getting calls and making calls from numbers that were unfamiliar. Then he would make a show about me invading his privacy when I called him out on it and his parents had the nerve to yell at me that I shouldn't be invading his privacy even though I had caught him red handed with proof (and again we shared a phone plan). Not to mention all the rumours. Oh and the pictures that his parents friends took of him and his mistress when they at the local mall.
Oh, there was also the mistresses clothes in the guest bedroom. That's always a dead giveaway.
Challo, oh well. Hope the whole family enjoys the afterlife in hell. A family that comes together to hide their sins has to face the truth sooner or later.
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^You taught something to all cheaters…
…what not to do. 
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LOL! Listen if my idiot ex didn’t learn, then I guarantee the majority of the cheaters won’t either. They get a high from it.
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as a kid, whenever i stole money from my Bhabhi’s purse, i did dishes for her that day! 
i was nice out of guilt! i did feel guilty but money was my need of the hour back then! 
i had to watch a brand new movie that day! 
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hmmm..it happens i think. People do act nice in order to hide their guilt surely. Not sure if this is saying or not but anyone who is being extra nice to you usually means something. I know it is bad to think like that but you have to be careful.