Acid Attacks

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Naeema’s suffering is twofold. As reported by eminent journalist and women rights’ activist Ms. Narjis Zaidi in a local English daily newspaper, Naeema was victimised by her husband who threw acid on her face, leaving her with a disfigured face and blinded eyes. Later she suffered at the hands of an NGO, who made a video of her acid burnt face without taking her consent, thus violating her privacy and dignity of the survivor, which are the fundamental human rights.

Source - Jang

My concerns are two-fold, as are the victims...

One - what motivates a man to throw acid at his wife's face? She's not only a woman, but she's also the mother of his children. What could drive a man to go to such lengths (lack of replies will force me to conclude yet again that men are pigs)

Two - what would motivate an NGO to disrespect this woman's privacy? Do our desis have no sense of what privacy is...the biradary gossip tradition now being transferred into the form of an NGO...is this an excuse for gossip in the name of 'fight for human rights'?

oh comon, I'd really like to know...has any guy here ever felt that much anger for the woman in his life that he felt like hurting her?

That seems to be the psyche of some people in rural South Asia. Ofcourse it stems form illetracy and a legacy of bogus traditions.

I am not sure if you know about this, but a popular way of the in-laws hurting the 'bahoo' used to be 'matti-ka-choolha' - an oven that uses carosine oil as a fuel. It can very easily be modified to burst when used. Lots of poor wifes were burnt due to that. How brutal can people be!

I just remembered an incident that took place in Lahore. An actress, Andleeb, had acid thrown over her face. Although, it wasn't a husband-wife affair, but still the mentality exists in cities as well.

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oh comon, I'd really like to know...has any guy here ever felt that much anger for the woman in his life that he felt like hurting her?
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I remember that too - she used to come in TV dramas and this incident happened to her when she tried her luck in the movies...now obviously, the sleezy lollywood directors had her wearing revealing clothes. It was because of this reason that a random stranger had thrown acid in her face on the streets.

She ended up going to europe to get surgery. After that, no one has really heard from her.

So sad really. I remember thinking she had an actress with a lot of potential - her performances in dramas were pretty good.

No no, it wasn't some stranger who attacked just because she was wearing revealing clothes. Such things don't happen in Pakistan as far as my knowledge goes, we are atleast that liberal -- Meera, Reema, Resham and others have never been harrased for that :). This guy, I think, was some acquaintance of her and was upset at her for something. He could be a rich illiterate businessman who wanted her to marry him.

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I remember that too - she used to come in TV dramas and this incident happened to her when she tried her luck in the movies...now obviously, the sleezy lollywood directors had her wearing revealing clothes. It was because of this reason that a random stranger had thrown acid in her face on the streets.

She ended up going to europe to get surgery. After that, no one has really heard from her.

So sad really. I remember thinking she had an actress with a lot of potential - her performances in dramas were pretty good.
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ah i must have been reading another gossip article then.

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oh comon, I'd really like to know...has any guy here ever felt that much anger for the woman in his life that he felt like hurting her?
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i feel angry at those men who do such things, i do feel like hurting them for the sake of hudood. but only govt. can implement hudood and i hope for an islamic govt to punish them here, or otherwise they will burn in hell inshallah unless the wife forgives him in jannah for great rewards as we know that forgiving any one on the day of judement will make the person get soooooo much things from allah as "bonus"....

Just for the fun of it...

What if the woman declared herself to be a practicing lesbian?

Log kaisee kaisee baton sei lutf uthatey hein! Thats plain provocation PCG, :)

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Just for the fun of it...

What if the woman declared herself to be a practicing lesbian?
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I'm serious. innocent face

Very sick indeed but i have one question especially from these cocky western media and westeren NGO's who love to portray muslims as people who do honour killings, abuse women, cause terror take a look at what the British and Amerikkkan Governments who bomb the crap out of Iraq have they not dishonoured muslim women strip seraching them, killing them, maimed and killed children caused terror with thier weapons and indiscriminate blitz bombing of civillian areas!

they biggest hypocrites going !

ok i found this anwer from islam-qa about lesbians,…surprised me too…
so according to it, lesbians have no hudd punishment, and thus the judge can punish her using “tazeer” (discretion)

I know that homosexuality is haram, but I wanted to know the punishment for it. I was told by a fellow sister that it is the same as if someone committed zinah. The lashing if you are unmarried, and stoning if your married. So which is correct for the punishment of this great sin???.

Answer :

Praise be to Allaah.

Lesbianism means a woman having sexual relations with another woman. This is undoubtedly haraam, and some scholars regard it as a major sin.

See al-Zawaajir ‘an Iqtiraaf al-Kabaa’ir, no. 362.

The imams are agreed that there is no hadd punishment for lesbianism because it is not zina (unlawful sexual intercourse), rather it is to be punished with a ta’zeer punishment in which the judge punishes the one who does that with a punishment which will deter her and others from doing this haraam action.

It says in al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/252):

The fuqaha’ are agreed that there is no hadd punishment for lesbianism, because it is not zina. Rather a ta’zeer punishment must be imposed, because it is a sin.

Ibn Qudaamah said (9/59):

If two women engage in lesbian sexual relations, then they are guilty of zina and are cursed, because it was narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman has sexual relations with another woman, then they are both guilty of zina.” There is no hadd punishment for them because they did not have intercourse, rather it is likened to intimate relations that are less than intercourse, and they are to be subjected to a ta’zeer punishment.

It says in Tuhfat al-Muhtaaj, 9/105:

There is no hadd punishment for a woman who has sexual relations with another woman, rather they should be punished with a ta’zeer punishment.

Some people think that the punishment for lesbianism is the same as the punishment for zina, because of the hadeeth quoted by Ibn Qudaamah as referred to above.

This hadeeth was narrated by al-Bayhaqi from Abu Moosa (may Allaah be pleased with him), who said that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man has sexual relations with another man, they are both guilty of zina, and if a woman has sexual relations with another woman they are both guilty of zina.”

This hadeeth is da’eef (weak); it was classed as da’eef by al-Albaani in Da’eef al-Jaami’, 282.

Al-Shawkaani said in Nayl al-Awtaar (7/287):

Its isnaad includes Muhammad ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan whom Abu Haatim described as kaadhib (a liar). Al-Bayhaqi said: I do not know him. So the hadeeth is munkar (rejected) with this isnaad. End quote.

Even if the hadeeth were saheeh, it is to be understood as meaning that they are guilty of zina in the sense that they are sinning, not with regard to hadd punishment. This was the view of al-Sarkhasi in al-Mabsoot, 9/78.

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every son of Adam has his share of zina. For the eyes may commit zina and their zina is looking; the hands may commit zina and their zina is touching; the feet may commit zina and their zina is walking; the mouth may commit zina and its zina is kissing. The heart desires and wishes and the private parts confirm that or deny it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, Muslim, and Ahmad. This version narrated by Ahmad, 8321.

And Allaah knows best.

Secondly:

The person who is faced with this problem has to hasten to repent to Allaah, and strive to treat this disease. Some of the ways of treating it are:

  •     Fearing Allaah and worshipping Him and loving Him sincerely, and being serious about that. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
    

“Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual intercourse. Surely, he was one of Our chosen, (guided) slaves”

[Yoosuf 12:24]

  •     Lowering the gaze, for this is one of the most effective means of purifying the soul. So if a person sees something that attracts him, he should not look again. 
    
  •     Remembering the dead whose deeds have come to an end, so they are not able to wipe out their bad deeds or do more good deeds. 
    
  •     Keeping oneself busy with beneficial things. 
    
  •     Marriage, and hastening to get married if possible. 
    

Thirdly:

Undoubtedly falling into sin and transgressing the sacred limits of Allaah are among the causes of the punishments that befall people en masse or individually. Punishment comes by the will of Allaah because of sin and affects a person in his religious commitment or in his spiritual or physical well-being. These punishments may come in this world, in the grave and in the Hereafter. Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: There are more than fifty types of effects of sin which are dealt with in detail in the book al-Daa’ wa’l-Dawaa’. When discussing the means of being patient in avoiding sin, in his book Tareeq al-Hijratayn, he mentioned that some of the effects of sin are: blackness of face and darkness in the heart; stress, worry, grief, anxiety and hardheartedness; being forsaken by Allaah, so He does not help or support one; sickness in the heart which, if chronic, leads to death, for sins inevitably deaden the heart. Another effect is humiliation after being honoured; feeling alienated after feeling at ease; feeling far away from Allaah after having found peace of mind in Him; poverty after richness, for he was rich and had capital, which is faith, then when he lost his capital he became poor and deprived, and he can only get that wealth back by repenting sincerely and striving hard; loss of provision, for a person is deprived of provision as a result of sins that he commits.

A seal and stain on the heart, for when a person commits sin a black spot appears on his heart, but if he repents it disappears.

Allaah, His angels and His slaves turn away from him, for when a person turns away from obedience to Allaah and becomes busy with sin, Allaah and His angels turn away from him.

In conclusion, the effects of sin are many more than a person can grasp, and the effects of obedience are many more than a person can comprehend. The best of this world and the Hereafter are to be found in obeying Allaah and the worst of this world and the Hereafter are all to be found in disobeying Allaah.

And Allaah knows best.

Islam Q&A (www.islam-qa.com)
http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=21058&dgn=4

and WHAT did I tell you?

Hm...I think a copy of all this should be pasted in the other thread as well. :D

victory dance

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and WHAT did I tell you?

Hm...I think a copy of all this should be pasted in the other thread as well. :D

victory dance
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actually didnt it say that it is still a big sin?

If I gather correctly, PCG, your point was that the punishment for same sex marriage is not legal. How does ThandaMazaq's posted reference confirm that?

If scholars agree on a punishment of Tazeer, it is as legitimate and authoritative for us as any other law. Ofcourse, you can disagree, but you have to have solid grounds to base your disagreement on.

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and WHAT did I tell you?

Hm...I think a copy of all this should be pasted in the other thread as well. :D

victory dance
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The claims being made in the other thread were regarding punishment for homosexuality to be death. This confirms that such is not so.

Anyway, back onto the topic of acid attacks.

what the hell does lesbianism have anything to do with acid attacks????

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The claims being made in the other thread were regarding punishment for homosexuality to be death. This confirms that such is not so.
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Not quite.

This just confirms the punishments for lesbianism (or one view of it), it doesnt talk about homosexuality, theres a difference.

Do a search from that same site and you'll find your punishment for homosexuality.

^ lesbianism is homosexuality! What is the difference between woman on woman vs. man on man?