is it a desi thing or are all humans born with this defect… that we cant accept differences…
why cant we just accept that someone is different.. that they do things the way they want, the way they prefer..
imagine how boring this world would be if we all thought/behaved the same.. if we all had the same likes and dislikes..
yes, i get frustrated too when someone doesnt see my point of view.. but i would no way get upset or angry just cus they thought differently..
sheesh… live and let live
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i know! silly tosspots 
and another thing…why cant people appreciate different styles of humour…not everyone is a brainless thinking … urgh
im giving up before iv even started, hope ur happy, brainless nitwits :o
sorry for ruining ur thread sadzz
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na MM, its all good.. i know how u feel... im in a rather peeved mood right now myself..
dutchie, ummz na its not just a desi thing.. maybe we note it more cus we're in contact with desis moreso than other races..
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Everyone has that defect, especially those of us (me) who have been taught to be ur brother's keeper, we take it to heart, lol
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while im at it…i wish gupshup allowed inept individuals, and il be willing to provide admin with a list, to take some form of IQ/ mental stability test before joining? il be willing to suggest a very apt screening process if required..and i have a feeling it will be.
oh wait, i need to add a disclaimer…one is forbidden to make a comment/ opinion without explaining oneself in an appropriate manner.
disclaimer
iv mentioned no names or personally included any examples of inept behaviour in my vent…if anyone thinks otherwise…thats your choice..i.e. bite me 
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^ good idea.. attitudes of some guppies on here are so obsecure.. but khair.. they make me laff.
i cant believe how peeved i am... geez get a hold of urself sadzzz
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LOL at the bite me, sooooooo many times wished I could have said that, lol
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smart? as in eduacted?
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hmm.. okay i know i haven;t got beef with any of u above.. so it can't be me. so whats this all about sadzy?
p.s: if everyone started to accept everyone.. life wudn't be interesting anymore :p
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^ na na not u suroor... :) noone in particular.. im just in a peeved mood today and i have no need to be either..
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Ah, i'm noting everyone's response in this. Next time I call men pigs, I dont want you girls crying out bloody murder.
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^ 
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most of my colleagues and friends arent desi but are infact white. 
most of the few desi people I keep in contact with are members of this forum 
Most of de ‘white people’ I know like to live and let live. They never ask questions nor have they ever tried to change / influence the way I think/live, au contraire to desi people, who trie to influence/change things to their advantage. ( happened every time I went to pak for holidays )
waise… It could be just me
It’s like when death becomes musical!
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what the… such an interesting topic and .. soo off-topic :o
goin
ciao chico’s et bella 's 
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This is something that I've seen, experienced and wondered about more than a few times. There are judgemental people in every culture, religion and country on the planet ... but desis do seem to be a bit more so than others. Is it religion? Upbringing? Culture? I'm still working on that and I think its a combination of all of the above. But some reflections...Desis tend to band together in a neighborhood and rarely venture outside of their little communities. Allow their children to beleive that all westerners or even different sects of Islaam are liars and/or whores. Actually teach them that to keep them on the straight and narrow. While gossip is supposedly forbidden in Islam, I've never seen a people more into gossip, spreading rumour and speculating on the actions of others. There are imperfections in each and every culture on the planet, dont get me wrong and think I'm desi-bashing here. But the thread is accurate to at least some degree.
Yes I agree that there should be some sort of personality profile test to be able to post here, lol! But really, it wouldnt be all that effective. While I'm a typically balanced and rational person and have posted here in that vein, I totally went off the wall in anger recently after reading some posts that fit nicely into the category that we're discussing here... so I put myself into that category too. Thats exactly how war begins. Human nature is flawed and its our job to make an attempt to perfect it.
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you always make perfect sense mamaof3 :)
i get what u mean by the whole gossiping thing. Back biting is actually forbidden in Islam, but culture always seems to find a way in. From my personal experience, with family, i believe its all culture and upbringing.
Its hard not to gossip though, and yeh i do it too. I think its a trait most people have as sometimes there are certain circumstances when one must partake in gossiping and so forth.
Everybody else who thinks otherwise, is lying :p
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Mama ur totally right. Please, don't think desis are the epitome of Islam. We're far from the perfect example of Muslims. Not that there is a single person who is an example, but I think we collectively are far from following the examples of our Prophet (saw).
And ig otta agree wit missy pyar...gossiping is fun to an extent. I think there's a difference between hurtful gossiping, spreading rumours and talking smack, and just sharing stories ya kno?
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mamaof3 - its simple - our culture does not value the "big picture". they're most concerned about details that are of no consequence rather than the main points. maybe its their education in pakistan that is so memorization and detail-based, rather than concept-based. who knows?
you see it in the society a lot - most people are not engaging in healthy activities that makes you grow as an individual. and after being raised in homes where all the ladies are gossiping in the neighborhood...who wouldnt be obsessed with petty details about this and that --- which leads to a judgemental nature?