Acceptable presents for a new SIL?

[Paheli00]

Re: Acceptable presents for a new SIL?

@Princess1983

As for me getting stuff that my BIL likes; I just thought it would be easier for SIL to get into the swing of things if she was given an early heads up on what her husband likes? No bad intentions (not that you said there was however I know some maybe thinking this). Unfortunately in my in-laws household you go by their rules and their ways. So even if I do find something that she likes if my MIL doesn’t like it or BIL doesn’t think it’s suitable I’m stuck!

Based on what you’ve posted so far about your in-laws…I’m sure the girl (and her family) is already aware of the parda requirement. And if the girl’s family is so strict…then I’m sure she has gotten plenty of lectures on how she needs to be as a wife. My point is that she has her own family, your in-laws/BIL…PLENTY of other people who have and will tell her how things need to be done. While I know that your intentions are noble…I would hate for her to view you as one more person who’s giving her hints on how to act. And like I said already…if she already does parda, I’m sure she has/will get plenty of scarves.

I agree with the advice on getting her a nice clutch she can use for dawats and sttff. Or get her a small jewelry box that she can use to keep all her jewelry in. You keep saying she’ll receive plenty of cosmetics from others…well then why don’t you get her a cosmetics bag set OR other similar organizer that she can use to store all those cosmetics. My point is that you should keep your gift neutral and geared towards HER personally. Something that has nothing to do with your BIL or other people’s expectations of her. And I can’t imagine your MIL/BIL etc. having problems with things like a jewerly box, nice clutch, cosmetics organizer etc.