Abuse

Life01 · May 1, 2015, 4:19am

how would you deal with it ? Say your parents were abusive or your spouse? any form of abuse physical,verbal,mental or emotional..

Chaachi · May 1, 2015, 5:00am

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The first step is to realize that abuse is taking place.
Second seek help or stand up. It depends on a lot of things anf who the abuse is from. If its from spouse you can seek help of adults , marriage counselling , counselling and therapy for spouse as well, etc
If its from parents i dont know. You can get them help and seek help from siblings.

strangeworld · May 1, 2015, 10:43am

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First of all it comes to your own self.

Chances are you might be doing something wrong that triggers abuse. When you live with your family/spouse it means you’re living with people who have different thinking than yours and their likes and dislikes are different than you. All those people expect things from you on the daily basis which can be the things you might not like and usually parents expect such things from their kids. Nothing wrong about that.

When it comes to your spouse the expectations are different but the point here is when you fail to do things they expect as they deserve to expect since you’ve relationship with them or associated to them in many ways that creates an atmosphere of disappointment and if that prolongs they start to change their attitudes towards you and if that prolongs even more it might end up in verbal or physical abuse.

I hope you won’t say that your parents/spouse are crazy people, or they?

If they’re not crazy people then you’re the trigger of that abuse so try to correct what you doing wrong.

There are only two reasons for abuse. Either the person abusing is crazy or you made that person crazy.

It’s in human instinct to love and to be compassionate to fellow human beings it’s the circumstances, behaviors, language, disrespect and many other similar things which lead to such abuse.

Pisiform · May 1, 2015, 10:56am

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strangeworld:

First of all it comes to your own self.

Chances are you might be doing something wrong that triggers abuse. When you live with your family/spouse it means you’re living with people who have different thinking than yours and their likes and dislikes are different than you. All those people expect things from you on the daily basis which can be the things you might not like and usually parents expect such things from their kids. Nothing wrong about that.

When it comes to your spouse the expectations are different but the point here is when you fail to do things they expect as they deserve to expect since you’ve relationship with them or associated to them in many ways that creates an atmosphere of disappointment and if that prolongs they start to change their attitudes towards you and if that prolongs even more it might end up in verbal or physical abuse.

I hope you won’t say that your parents/spouse are crazy people, or they?

If they’re not crazy people then you’re the trigger of that abuse so try to correct what you doing wrong.

There are only two reasons for abuse. Either the person abusing is crazy or you made that person crazy.

It’s in human instinct to love and to be compassionate to fellow human beings it’s the circumstances, behaviors, language, disrespect and many other similar things which lead to such abuse.

lol

BellaShabba · May 1, 2015, 11:01am

strangeworld:

Life01:

how would you deal with it ? Say your parents were abusive or your spouse? any form of abuse physical,verbal,mental or emotional..

First of all it comes to your own self.

Chances are you might be doing something wrong that triggers abuse. When you live with your family/spouse it means you’re living with people who have different thinking than yours and their likes and dislikes are different than you. All those people expect things from you on the daily basis which can be the things you might not like and usually parents expect such things from their kids. Nothing wrong about that.

When it comes to your spouse the expectations are different but the point here is when you fail to do things they expect as they deserve to expect since you’ve relationship with them or associated to them in many ways that creates an atmosphere of disappointment and if that prolongs they start to change their attitudes towards you and if that prolongs even more it might end up in verbal or physical abuse.

I hope you won’t say that your parents/spouse are crazy people, or they?

If they’re not crazy people then you’re the trigger of that abuse so try to correct what you doing wrong.

There are only two reasons for abuse. Either the person abusing is crazy or you made that person crazy.

It’s in human instinct to love and to be compassionate to fellow human beings it’s the circumstances, behaviors, language, disrespect and many other similar things which lead to such abuse.

Seriously? Are you for real?

Pisiform · May 1, 2015, 11:07am

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I am never sure if strange world is trolling all of us or just serious in her own lala land

strangeworld · May 1, 2015, 11:30am

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I’m never wrong @Pisiform because I don’t write to delight others like you or all the other members.

You’re welcome in my lala land and trust me you really need a break from your ola ola land because it’s too deceiving:p

Pisiform · May 1, 2015, 11:31am

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I don’t give a crap about others and have gotten numerous times into trouble for that. But you are totally different thing

strangeworld · May 1, 2015, 11:45am

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Is that a compliment

Pisiform · May 1, 2015, 11:47am

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yea sure … totally open to interpretation lol

strangeworld · May 1, 2015, 11:50am

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StrangeOne · May 1, 2015, 12:08pm

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So, I’m allowed to be abusive to anyone I don’t like. Good to know. Will head butt all my relatives next time we meet.

BigdaNawab · May 1, 2015, 12:53pm

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I couldnt have said it better than @chachi . I don’t think you all arguing here actually been in any for of serious abuse situation otherwise you wouldnt fight like foolish 10year olds over who is right

winterfireflies · May 1, 2015, 4:05pm

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strangeworld:

First of all it comes to your own self.

Chances are you might be doing something wrong that triggers abuse. When you live with your family/spouse it means you’re living with people who have different thinking than yours and their likes and dislikes are different than you. All those people expect things from you on the daily basis which can be the things you might not like and usually parents expect such things from their kids. Nothing wrong about that.

When it comes to your spouse the expectations are different but the point here is when you fail to do things they expect as they deserve to expect since you’ve relationship with them or associated to them in many ways that creates an atmosphere of disappointment and if that prolongs they start to change their attitudes towards you and if that prolongs even more it might end up in verbal or physical abuse.

I hope you won’t say that your parents/spouse are crazy people, or they?

If they’re not crazy people then you’re the trigger of that abuse so try to correct what you doing wrong.

There are only two reasons for abuse. Either the person abusing is crazy or you made that person crazy.

It’s in human instinct to love and to be compassionate to fellow human beings it’s the circumstances, behaviors, language, disrespect and many other similar things which lead to such abuse.

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Paheli00 · May 1, 2015, 4:30pm

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strangeworld:

First of all it comes to your own self.

Chances are you might be doing something wrong that triggers abuse. When you live with your family/spouse it means you’re living with people who have different thinking than yours and their likes and dislikes are different than you. All those people expect things from you on the daily basis which can be the things you might not like and usually parents expect such things from their kids. Nothing wrong about that.

When it comes to your spouse the expectations are different but the point here is when you fail to do things they expect as they deserve to expect since you’ve relationship with them or associated to them in many ways that creates an atmosphere of disappointment and if that prolongs they start to change their attitudes towards you and if that prolongs even more it might end up in verbal or physical abuse.

I hope you won’t say that your parents/spouse are crazy people, or they?

If they’re not crazy people then you’re the trigger of that abuse so try to correct what you doing wrong.

There are only two reasons for abuse. Either the person abusing is crazy or you made that person crazy.

It’s in human instinct to love and to be compassionate to fellow human beings it’s the circumstances, behaviors, language, disrespect and many other similar things which lead to such abuse.

For anyone wondering what on earth is going on with all this…this article may shed some light on it. Whether this poster is serious or not…unfortunately there are people out there who really believe this.

Sara516 · May 9, 2015, 6:50pm

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thats never happened. Maybe it’s your own fault?

Tahurra · May 11, 2015, 10:54am

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assalam u alaikum sister

may you find your answer in it biznillahi ta’alla
[Yt]SwKP9Rk–7E[/Yt]

may Allah help all those people who are being abused or oppressed And may Allah protect us Ameen

Xtron · May 12, 2015, 10:54am

Abuse whether be it any kind..leaves a deep wound on someone. Unless a victim doesn’t get professional counselling, person might not recover from it.
Personally, i did very consolidating research on this topic. Which was what is an abuse in a relationship. Abuse is when someone constantly lashes out, hits, emotionally belittling, swears at victim for their own reason. And the reason is just so they can feel “empowered”.
This creates anger, frustration, and depression issues in the victim. That is, even if victim moved onto another relationship this might stay with them…unless they get serious help. And people…its very very important to get help. In next episode…ill tell you why.

badabing · May 12, 2015, 6:23pm

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I’d be abusive back, four fold! I never initiate, but I sure as heck finish it!!!

VintageSpring · May 12, 2015, 6:36pm

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I guess it depends on every person’s specific circumstance tbh, and how’d they’d deal with it. Never been through anything like this aH so I couldn’t tell you, but I’ve heard stories about this.