Seek help. Immediately. Do not sit around and think what went wrong and that you’re mistaken. Seek help.
The word limit should never be associated with any form of abuse. Be is spousal, elderly, child, animal, whatever.
One would always hope so. But it’s hard to break a vicious cycle. Change comes from within. If a person doesn’t recognize they have a fault, then no matter how much outside forces work upon it, the change would never occur.