I am 26, about to get married in a month’s time… I wanna make it a memorable night for both of us but i have got certain doubts that I wanna clarify on this forum… Need the advice of the senior married people…
As a background, we have been engaged for almost 2 years (family arrangement) and are very good friends now and can discuss virtually anything. None of us had any sort of experience of physical relations with the opposite sex. And both of us are very very attracted to each other physically/mentally/psychologically, very much in love…
I plan to spend this first night in just talking, kissing, hugging etc. I plan to deffer the intercourse till she is comforable with our new intimacy… However I have certain doubts about it… (1) I know I will be very excited in phsical and mental terms… Will I be able to restain myself to only kissing/hugging etc. (2) Again, I know i will be very excited… My fear is that I will get released and reach orgasm just during hugging/kissing etc. In that case if i get released even before entering her, it would be a very very embarrasing situation for me… Please advice me in light of your actual experiences… I really am very concerned about it…
I plan to spend this first night in just talking, kissing, hugging etc. I plan to deffer the intercourse till she is comforable with our new intimacy... However I have certain doubts about it... (1) I know I will be very excited in phsical and mental terms... Will I be able to restain myself to only kissing/hugging etc. (2) Again, I know i will be very excited... My fear is that I will get released and reach orgasm just during hugging/kissing etc. In that case if i get released even before entering her, it would be a very very embarrasing situation for me... Please advice me in light of your actual experiences... I really am very concerned about it....
Google Dr. Drew Pinsky of the Loveline fame. He used to dole out adivce on radio and MTV to young people about sex. His website should have good advice for you.
I'm sure your partner will understand if anything embarrassing will happen. If you worry too much about it then it may cause more nervousness when the actual event takes place. So maybe discuss with your partner that you don't want to pressure her on that night and hope she enjoys herself. Take some pressure off yourself and make it a night for her. A bubblebath, a massage...? I'm sure things will evolve naturally when you both relax and just let nature take its course. Good luck.
woh ... calm down dude... just relax and do not think abt it.!
and these things should not be discussed in public... seriously!
you will come back pretty late ..not before 2am i guess... with so many people at home.. and maybe some young cousins around..and you will also be tierd...just get under the sheets and sleep!.
r u really getting married or just pretending and wanted to talk on this topic..... this is not a public issue.... GS kay mahol ko allooda na kia jay..... plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
The way you have explained your last two years relationship and all, I think you two will be done and over with within 15 minutes of privacy. I think you should actually do that. She might even like you more for not being able to wait and finding her so irresistable that you just did it in a jiffy. Get it over with it as it comes (no pun intended) and then enjoy the rest of the night the way you described...talking, hugging and kissing. Intercourse is over-rated any way. The real fun is in the build-up, the foreplay.
I normally don't participate in such threads...4 posts and viola! a wedding night question. But your post seems somewhat genuine.
I am 26, about to get married in a month’s time… I wanna make it a memorable night for both of us but i have got certain doubts that I wanna clarify on this forum… Need the advice of the senior married people…
As a background, we have been engaged for almost 2 years (family arrangement) and are very good friends now and can discuss virtually anything. None of us had any sort of experience of physical relations with the opposite sex. And both of us are very very attracted to each other physically/mentally/psychologically, very much in love…
I plan to spend this first night in just talking, kissing, hugging etc. I plan to deffer the intercourse till she is comforable with our new intimacy… However I have certain doubts about it… (1) I know I will be very excited in phsical and mental terms… Will I be able to restain myself to only kissing/hugging etc. (2) Again, I know i will be very excited… My fear is that I will get released and reach orgasm just during hugging/kissing etc. In that case if i get released even before entering her, it would be a very very embarrasing situation for me… Please advice me in light of your actual experiences… I really am very concerned about it…
Don't put pressure on yourself. If you think about it, you'll fail. Just relax and go with the flow. No matter how long...later you'll understand everything. Remember to settle her down. If she is relaxed, you are GOOD. It's all about her....and her needs only.
Ooopss... sorry for posting the msg times... there was some error in my internet connecton... or may be as you said i might be too excited... lol....
**@ pinki/saima: **I dont want to discuss this with my partner, coz i wanna give her a pleasant surprise that despite her being so irresistable, "she" is more important to me rather than "the act" and i can delay it till she'z ready, willling and confortable with it.... saima ur suggestions are great....
@luxury: lots of valuable advices are available on the net on do's and dont's but none on "what to do if something goes wrong when you are doing the right thing??", though i value your advice and consult that too...
**@ longhorn/shireen: **I think lots of about-to-get-married people have lots of doubts in their minds... this forum should give a place to clarify those... everybody here is mature enough... Having said that if i have in any manner offended you, i apologize for that and am wiling to stop this thread right here if you so desire.... Shireen what made you think that i might be lying????
**@ funguy: **you have pointed out a whole new dimensoin which seems to be quite logical and good... never thought on these lines...
i m sorry just had to get that out of ma system
