Re: About Marriage
Islamic belief is that ‘pata bhie nahi hilta Allah kee marzi kay bagair’ … then how can two people get married without will of Allah?
Anyhow, there is some wrong concept about marriage that if one do not understand than to know Islamic beliefs on the subject is impossible.
In Islam, marriage is not same as in other religion or culture. Islamic marriage is contract between two parties, that can be broken easily, where wife do not become part of family, unlike other religions where marriage is unbreakable life long bond and wife becomes family of husband (rather, part of husband’s extended family).
Since in Islam, contract is between two individuals (husband and wife), family members of husband and wife only become associates with restricted relationship. For instance, even brothers, brother-in-laws, uncles, cousins etc of husband are na-mahram for wife … and in same way sisters, sister-in-laws, aunties, cousins, etc of wife are na-mahram for husband.
As in any worldly partnerships, partnerships can break and can change over time, and in some cases one can have partnership with different individuals at same time. Same with marriage, as with time, this partnership could break (divorce) and can change with time (marriage after divorce). Similarly, one can have several partnerships at the same time (this applies to men only in marriage partnership, and the reason for that is nothing to do with partners but to do with safeguard of marriage output or safeguarding children’s identity).
So, concept of other religion that marriage is made in sky, does not stands in Islam. On the other hand, as we know that whatever we find in this world (wealth, knowledge, happiness, education, health, misery, accidents, children, power, etc), it comes when Allah wills, same can be said about marriage partnership, that it comes when Allah wills.
Allah can give anything to some without much effort, and some have to do a lot of effort to get even basics. That is true about marriage partnership too.