the other night bhabhi i and sis went to congratulate one of our distant relative for new arrival in her family but they told us that her son is not normal and they are quite sad about it…he is not eunuch but he is not as normal as one kid should b and that is told by the doctor ..may be he is mentaly disable child .handicapped institutions are full of handicapped children.even in our neighbor their youngest son in a special child he is not growing,talking,eating,behaving, looking and living like a normal kid and he is going to special children school Allah knows what wrong that he is like this..
as i again example my relative they are young they didnt took long gap for 3rd baby first 2 kids are fine there is no history in her family for abnormal kid that means there is nothing wrong in her and her husband..so what went wrong that this hapened
abnormal or handicapped children and eunuch children are two diferent things …
i just example this couple i didnt ask for them particularly ..i asked generaly that what exactly hapened that many abnormal kids and eunuch kids are born ..as both type of kids are born to normal and healthy parents…
as far as i know there is no such “ilaj” for abnormal kids to make them normal
and for eunuch to make them female or male..and they have to live their rest of the life like this
medical science might have a answer for this that parents should aware of and prevent few things to avoid these kinds of baby
i just wana know what went wrong at what stage or that is just ALLAH’S wish and “imtihaan”.. and would be parents cant do any thing
A newborn child cannot be an eunuch by definition. Children may be born with ambigious genitalia, if that is what you are referring to. There are a number of reasons as to why this can happen including chromosomal abnormlities and inapropriate hormonal imbalances.
OP, can you please clarify what you mean by the baby is "abnormal/eunach", because right now your post is not making much sense. Unless you can tell us what exactly is wrong with the baby (physical deformity?), I'm afraid we won't be of much help....
No offense intended but I find this post full of ignorance.. first of all if there was any physical deformation in genitals, why would distant relatives be sharing such information with you?
and second why would you think something went wrong during conceiving or pregnancy taht could have been avoided... if there is an issue, it's Allah's will and not something that people have control over!
i remember when i was pregnant at 12 or 16 weeks i got a test 2 check the chromosomal abnormality the doc said if god forbids the child 2 be has any mental problem or abnormality v check now n let the parents know n then its parents desicion god forbids if the baby has any abnormality they still want 2 carry tht pregnancy or not
the other night bhabhi i and sis went to congratulate one of our distant relative for new arrival in her family but they told us that her son is not normal and they are quite sad about it...
well they are young they didnt took long gap for 3rd baby first 2 kids are fine that means there is nothing wrong in her and her husband then why her 3rd kid is abnormal:(
and its not about her..many kids are born abnormal even eunuch.
i just wana know what went wrong at the time of concieving or during nine months that such kids (abnormal/enuch) born...why thats happened...
I don't understand your question ! It does not take a genius or a rocket scientist to know that to conceive or to conceive a girl or a boy or to conceive a normal baby is not in anyone's hands......so what can anyone do in such a case except for dua ?
I have recently seen a case where 1st child was absolutely normal and 2nd one was diagnosed with some problem during ultrasound doctor suggested abortion but parents went ahead to keep the baby the baby died soon after birth and was born prematurely in 27th week so Allah ki marzi what can one do in such things except to do sabar.
I dont get it. How would someone know if a newborn is eunuch?
how do i know tlk bhai...dr must tell after physical checkup..as if u watch movie bol midwife tells father that your kid just looks like baby boy but actually he is not a male..and that is proven when he grows up..his emotions were not as a male and he was a eunuch
the other night bhabhi i and sis went to congratulate one of our distant relative for new arrival in her family but they told us that her son is not normal and they are quite sad about it...he is not eunuch but he is not as normal as one kid should b and that is told by the doctor ..may be he is mentaly disable child .handicapped institutions are full of handicapped children.even in our neighbor their youngest son in a special child he is not growing,talking,eating,behaving, looking and living like a normal kid and he is going to special children school Allah knows what wrong that he is like this..
as i again example my relative they are young they didnt took long gap for 3rd baby first 2 kids are fine there is no history in her family for abnormal kid that means there is nothing wrong in her and her husband..so what went wrong that this hapened
abnormal or handicapped children and eunuch children are two diferent things ...
i just example this couple i didnt ask for them particularly ..i asked generaly that what exactly hapened that many abnormal kids and eunuch kids are born ..as both type of kids are born to normal and healthy parents...
as far as i know there is no such "ilaj" for abnormal kids to make them normal
and for eunuch to make them female or male..and they have to live their rest of the life like this
medical science might have a answer for this that parents should aware of and prevent few things to avoid these kinds of baby
i just wana know what went wrong at what stage or that is just ALLAH'S wish and "imtihaan".. and would be parents cant do any thing
I'm sorry, but you still do not make sense. And please stop using the word "abnormal"!
There are PLENTY of 'ilaaj" for pretty much any ailment that could befall a child. Whether or not parents, or more fittingly culture/society choose to accept the child's fate is a different story. Is the child physically disabled? Was he/she born with Downs Syndrome? You STILL have not said what the "abnormality" is in your specific case.
And please, for your sake and ours...learn to use Wikepedia and/or Google. All your questions regarding conception and birth defects will be answered much better there than they will be here.
I would consider myself a tolerant person but your post is making me think there's something "abnormal" in your head.
If the child is in fact mentally disabled then having a child with special needs requires a lot of love, understanding and compassion and I'm sure the family is trying to figure out what needs their child has and how they can support him, and your ignorance is not helping.
You mentioned you wanted to know what went wrong and at what stage, well unless its a very specific type of disability then there is no way of knowing. This is where your faith in Allah comes in.
If you're concerned for any future children you may have then talk to your doctor about ways to have a healthy pregnancy other then that there's nothing we can do but make dua for a healthy child and if Allah chooses to give us one with special needs then accept that that was the way things were meant to be and more on to providing the best care of that child.
You would be surprised that there are many things can be medical and bio medical that can be done along with physical, behavioral therapies for kids with special needs to improve the quality of a child's life.
The special needs spectrum can range from hearing loss, Autism, deafness, down syndrome. Can specify what kind of abnormality that the couple is worried about?
Regardless, I would encourage the parents not to lose hope and do research what is best for their new baby.
Well well well ladies, the OP probably doesn't know pregnancies and such. Its okay to ask questions here right. I mean when I was pregnant and my doctor would tel me something, I would run back home and google. Yes everything is in Allah's hand and that's what we truly believe in but there is nothing wrong in finding out what caused certain thing in a baby. My baby was diagonsed with an unusual physical abnormility when I was pregnant and I was told to abort the child because there will be no way he'll be born without that condition. I researched for hours for information regarding this. So really, there is nothing wrong with knowing something. Of course when the OP said what went wrong when concieving, lets blame this on her naiveness.
There is ilaj for a lot of conditions. If parents can afford it there is a treatment for many different physical abnormalities. Genetic counseling is one way of knowing the genes you and your partner are carrying that "could" effect the baby. Ultimately, everything is in Allah's hand. My son, after all that diagonses and suggestion for abortion, was born normal, just like any other healthy baby but I did research and had a team of doctors standing right beside me who were going to perform surgery just in case they needed it right away.
In my line of work I've seen my fair share of wonderful perfect deliveries and healthy newborns and the unfortunate circumstances that are unforeseen and don't go according to " plan ". For here is only so much even medicine can predict and do. My cousin, expecting the first baby, a pediatrician, a month from her delivery felt some cramping during the day. The baby room all set, her husband - also a dr- figured let's just go to the hospital and get checked out just in case. She had the perfect pregnancy. After arriving at the hospital, ultrasound, found out the cord had separated and baby girl had died. It kills me to even write this. It's been months and everyone still has yet to recover. Allah only know what he has in store. We can only pray when he gives us a child we are capable enough to love and care for that treasure. No matter what society deems as "normal", "abnormal", ambiguous.
