We’re supposed to follow the sunnah of the Prophet SAWS. And how to communicate respectfully and properly and how to treat others is mentioned in his sunnah. Husbands who treat their wives in a harsh manner, are not open to discussing issues with their wives, do not show flexibility and compassion, are not following the Prophet’s example. They’re following culture, instead. They’re following culture’s idea of masculinity perhaps.
Yes, some people are blessed with more patience than others. Lekin sabar ki bhi had hoti hai, Kinzz.
^And since patience is a difficulty quality, there is much reward attached to it. However, at the same time Islam has allowed us to seek compensation. If someone has wronged you, you are allowed retribution equivalent to the offense. Allah rewards us for Sabr, but at the same time He has allowed us ways to get out of oppressive situations because He doesn’t want us to suffer oppression either. For example, divorce is a last resort in Islam…BUT…it’s a way out for women and men who may be going through a lot zulm in their marriage. Do you see what I mean? Patience has been advised…but along with patience…Allah has also created consequences/punishments/various solutions to keep the abuser in check and to help the victim find relief.