Aasiya n firuon

[Kinzz]

@redvelvet

^If Islam advises us to be patient with others…it ALSO…advises us not to let our anger, pride, greed, get the better of us.

**Why should the wife only be expected to show patience? **I feel that desi culture (in several ways) not only creates roadblocks for women, but also puts women in a position where there is GREATER pressure upon them to be the ones to show patience and to compromise. One can also say…why can’t the husband also have patience…as opposed to abusing his wife? It’s a two way street…involves efforts/compromise/patience from BOTH parties to make the marriage work.

Perhaps there is less patience today because society is more demanding, fast paced. Technology has made things faster, so perhaps we expect fast results and fixes even in relationships. Times have changed…gender roles/expectations have changed a bit as well. For example, more women are working. There are more rights, opportunities, and possibilities for women now, whereas decades ago the only choice may have been to suffer and submit. The changes in society can be both positive and negative.

you are right RV…but see in our desi culture…mostly in pakistan…the husbands wants control on his wife he will be strict…dont know why but its really hard for me to understand a desi man…even if he is my husband/father/brother…they will do or order what they FEEL is RIGHT…

anyways so my point was…if the husband is zalim…so shouldnt the wife be patient…like there was a thread about what if your spouse slap you…so far you or anyone will go with sabar?

and i also think sabar is a Gift from ALLAH…because only some people have this..and thats why it reward so much..