^If Islam advises us to be patient with others…it ALSO…advises us not to let our anger, pride, greed, get the better of us.
Why should the wife only be expected to show patience? I feel that desi culture (in several ways) not only creates roadblocks for women, but also puts women in a position where there is GREATER pressure upon them to be the ones to show patience and to compromise. One can also say…why can’t the husband also have patience…as opposed to abusing his wife? It’s a two way street…involves efforts/compromise/patience from BOTH parties to make the marriage work.
Perhaps there is less patience today because society is more demanding, fast paced. Technology has made things faster, so perhaps we expect fast results and fixes even in relationships. Times have changed…gender roles/expectations have changed a bit as well. For example, women are working and more independent, this can affect the dynamics of marriage. There are more rights, opportunities, and possibilities for women now, whereas decades ago the only choice may have been to suffer and submit. The changes in society can be both positive and negative.