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I have seen enough Pakistani women who have shown ‘sabr’ all their lives living with abusive husbands only to become mentally weak, shattered and miserable. Before they know it, they are 50 years old with no confidence, no self esteem and no ability to encounter the outside world. Their husband suck the spirit out of them.
You show sabr when you encounter difficult times. You don’t show sabr when your husband is constantly abusing you, disrespecting you and not giving you your due rights. You walk out and that’s your religious right. If sabr was of such paramount importance in an abusive relationship, our religion would have never given us the option of divorce or khula.