Ok , so we just returned back home from a two month holiday. Baby seemed to enjoy attention all along and hated travelling bit , he’s lost alot of weight coz he just didnt eat much ..
Now that we are back, I am trying to get him to focus on eating food himself , but he is adamant on me feeding him ! He gets annoyed if I place food infront of him to eat , wants me to put it in his mouth .. any tips on handling this behaviour?
Every round thing he sees, he thinks is a ball an starts throwing it around ! I tried giving him fruit so he could bite into it and learn to eat and he ends up playing football with it !
Also I have noticed that he has become really clingy since we returned .. I dont know if he’s missing being around a house full of people , you think this is normal toddler behaviour being so clingy? he wont let me do anything at all .. even if I have kept tonns of toys to distract him and am an arms length away , he keeps running into my legs and wants me to pick him up ..
I think he will take some time but he is gona return back to being normal. He might be missing all that attention. What exactly does he like to eat? Try to give him more of what he enjoys eating. Sit down with him during meal times, feed him a bit and show him how he can eat food by himself by eating in front of him. Babies of this age are fast learners. I am sure it will get better :).
He’s definitely adjusting to the new environment. It will be back to normal in a few days.
Regarding feeding your kid, well, I’m a crazy kinda mama I guess… I’ve never pushed my kids to eat by themselves. I’m a little out of the book in many respects. Feed him if he so desires. It’s great bonding time and will NOT cripple him. My kids still love being fed by me at ages 11 and 7 but are very good at eating on their own too. Heck, even I at my age love being fed by my mommy. It’s alright. He will know when he needs to.
Meanwhile, give him finger foods for snacks which he will enjoy eating on his own…things that are actually annoying if someone else feeds you, such as Cheerios and fruit pieces and crackers…
Yeah going from so many people to a diffwrent environment is tough..esp when u had an extended stay. My son was 10 months old when we went to visit family in Canada…we only weny for a week but when he came back he was super clingy for a while. It wore off quickly tho cos we got right back into his routine.
As for eating by themselves, i agree with fhe previous poster…he will come into it on his own. My son just recently began eating food on his own. He is 15 months old. He hated eating things by himself…i got him a little fork and spoon set and now he LOVES eating on his own - be it with the fork or his hands. Don’t worry.. just continue showing him how to eat on his own and he’ll pick it up when u least expect it
Cb, have him shadow you. When I have to do the laundry, he gets to hold his PJs or shirt while I collect all the clothes, together we take them to laundry room, he stands next to me and observes everything. In kitchen, I have a cabinet for him. So while I am in kitchen, he plays with his cups and food. So yeah he literally follows us everywhere. It is perfectly fine. Just make sure he is in a safe surrounding.
It is perfectly fine to feed him. Teaching him to self feed with snack food is a great idea.
I still feed my 4 year old daughter. It’s not that she can’t eat herself because she does at school but it’s just the way of getting love and care from her mama and I also enjoy it.
Your son is too young right now , as he will grow he will try to do new things and will experiment alot and eating on his own will be one of those things so relax
Thanks so much ladies, I really appreciate the tips shared here .. I guess I just wanted to hear if its ok for the child to continue to be fed by me , coz i love it , its a great bonding time for him and me , we both eat nicely and I enjoy my food even more when I know he’s sharing it :)))) *
Back in Pakistan , everyone used to mention him not eating on his own, so I thought he was lacking behind ..
Lusi, I do the shadow bit already .. I give him tasks where ever we are .. when cleaning he holds the brush for me , while I dust , when I am in the kitchen he does the things for me like opening cupboards if i need to put stuff in, he even tries to open the fridge for me when i ask him too !
He’s pretty active like that .. I hope the clingy bit goes away soon , perhaps you guys are right , he might just be adjusting back, he was only 10 months when he left and loads of travelling happened during the next two months which meant having to adjust to new environment every few days , he did go through heck loads of change :hinna:
Just a quick question , baby is only eating Cheese easily , ever since we returned. He is rejecting everything else or takes only tiny bits of chicken or roti or rice or vegies ..
But cheese he is able to finish up the whole thing in a packet in a single sitting. Is it ok for me to give cheese to him in such quantity for as long as he likes?
well CB, my baby is also of one year nw. here my elders say , if baby stop eatng that means he hv chest prob. may be somethng in his thoart. and ys it happens to my baby. So i would suggest u try to figure may be he has. cheese is soft thaty he eats it.
I am also doing so with baby as lusi said. I also keep it busy with myself. gud idea to keep baby with herslef busy.
and i hv question for u whther ur baby starts to walk? if yes then he walks all day mean like to walk all time. i knw u mention he is clingy nw a days. but generally wt he likes. and dont worry he will be fine soon.
CP, i have a 2 year old who eats himself and only half of the food goes in his belly. So for now you really shouldn’t worry about him not feeding himself. There will be a time when you wished he would let you feed him so more food is taken in. Since LO has lost a lot of weight, why not concentrate on gaining that back.
yes Amaya, he walks Ma Shaa Allah but keeps running into me every couple seconds .. I think it might be coz he thinks its a new place for him .. will wait and see and hoping he will feel better soon ..
rabia, focus is on him gaining weight and getting back to his normal self again .. that is why I am not refusing him cheese even though its all he is eating four to five times a day ! I am getting worried if it might be a healthy thing to do
well i was asking this caz here poeple sayng to much walk for a child so early is nt gud. be honest dont take me wrng. but i need suggestion.
my baby starts at 9 month. Abut 7 , i think he start to stant while haldling anythng.
nw at 1 year, he walk whole day. take rest only while sleepng. and his legs is nt straight. near knee it is going bit wrong mean tari. and all poeple sayng it is due to lots of walking at early age. upper body is heavy that legs cant bother.
nw asking other one may be i get any suggestion. i am very worried abut it.
babies go through different phases, you will have days when they won’t want to eat anything, it is okay. Just give them some space when they are hungry they will eat.
Amaya stop worrying. All babies have bowed legs. It’s how their bone structure is made and how infants grow. When a baby starts walking, usually between 9 and 17 months, the bones in the legs will start to slowly reform as old bone breaks down and is replaced by new bone in different places where it’s now needed to support her weight. Usually within six to nine months of starting to walk, your child will have straighter legs.
You can’t stop a child from walking if his body is ready to. It’s a natural progression and a part of his development.
There is a website called babycenter dot com. It’s an excellent resource for new moms, and can answer a lot of these types of questions for you.
ok dont worry my little baby was same walking by 9 months n she hardly used to sit, trust me kids have more energy than us and even sometimes pampers cause bowed legs don’t worry, she is 3 now n her legs are perfectly fine
Don’t you people take your babies to the doctor for quaterly exams/vaccinations, etc? Going to a doc will just clear up things for you. When it comes to my baby, I never take any medical advice from relatives. I always make trip to the doctor make things clear for. Sorry to say this but self treatment is huge in Pakistan, it is better to consult a doctor then giving xyz based on aunties recommendation.
CB, I firmly believe in the mantra food is for fun until 1, and even then not to be forced. Coming from a baby led weaning ethos, I’m happy to take my son’s lead and trust that he will eat when hungry and otherwise not. On difficulty days I offer a variety of food, and if he doesn’t eat it, I try and trust in the fact he knows when he’s hungry.
As for encouraging him to eat himself, I’d eat all meals with him so he can watch and engage with food, and give him snacks like raisin’s in a box, which he has to use fingers for, or blue berries. That really helped with my son’s motor skills. You could also try using a crinkle knife/cutter to make it easier to hold food.
As for clingyness, its a phase and will pass, my son is 20 months and very independent, and yet still regresses. (Though secretly I enjoy it).
