A woman (as described in the first post) who keeps the family together makes a bigger sacrifice in a relationship. Her efforts should be taken in the positive light. Women who look down upon these women in the name of feminism are unfair with both men and women. These women who take the innitiative for the sake of the word family should not be seen as inhibited..instead they should be respected for the life they choose to live. It isn't necessarily dictated by men.
Feminism is equality of rights.. not condemnation of roles.
^ exactly, and feminism is acknowledging and appreciating the efforts of women who put their family first , which IMHO, I think is most women anyway - working or not.
What you have described is a peaceful scenario...The classic balance between man and woman...
The woman pushing and the man pulling the cart of life...And together, they make it work...
Feminism is a state of unrest and unease coming from those women who seek to become the equals of men...Not realizing they are in fact leaving the very podium that makes them women to be something they are not...
I have written before, that there is a reason why the man is bigger and more rugged than the woman who is soft and gentle...The man is the buffer, the pylon which is supposed to bear the brunt of life's hardships while the woman is nurturer, the life giver...That is why she is so soft and suple...She nurtures life...
But feminists are unhappy...They wish to be manlike...Strong, rugged and equal in every way at the price of ditching the very traits that make a woman a woman...
And obviously, since women can never ever be like men and vice versa, they go through their entire life with a sense of inferiority complex and unhappy...trying to be something they can't and in the process losing that which they were...
I abhor feminists...They are unhappy, insecure and inferior beings...No true woman in her right mind would want to give up being a woman...The true woman knows who she is an is content with her life...
When we question things you guys have problem with it ** I abhor feminists...They are unhappy, insecure and inferior beings...No true woman in her right mind would want to give up being a woman...The true woman knows who she is an is content with her life...**
At work most of us do same thing over and over again but with different people. At home woman has to deal with different issues with kids every single day. Every single step can make or break a child's life she has a huge impact in their lives. Would you guys switch? Raising kids and biggest child of all is husband who is not t easy to deal with.
Feminist believe They have right to say no and choose what they want and if i may ask whats wrong with it? Just cause i raise my voice and say no i am placed in a criteria of "feminist".
Someone mentioned "balance relationship" how is that balanced? read it again she is being used as a machine and she is getting taught from the day one how to be a machine. She has to get up early to make food for her man and make food all day long for her family. If i were to ask guys to stay home for only 24 hours and not step outside for a single second how would that feel? oh not to mention at night she has to be a sex machine its his choice when he wants it her pleasure has no value.
Most of you guys want machines - to all of those guys go fudge with yourselves.... [sorry mods i get emotional]
am i the only one on this board who thinks that Muzna is intentionally baiting pcg into an argument that may turn nasty by bringing up the same subject again and again? This is probably the fourth or fifth time she has done that in less number of days.
The women has lived a life that all our ancestors have..in the case of the families of most of the posters here on GS this lifestyle wasnt lost until not long ago.
The lady is probably content in her role, what she does is necesary
what would be interesting is what would happen if a missionary came to the village and offered her education and chance to change her life or offered it to the daughter
I wonder at which point in life do little boys, that basically grow up seeing their moms do all the work, start thinking that the male is superior and faces far more responsibilities and hardships in life.
little girls are rasied by ---their moms
little boys are raised by---their moms
little girls have a reason to grow up---they look up to their moms and want to be just like them
little boys, who spend very little time with their dads, would have no reason to grow up unless told that they are superior (in some divine way) to women. since in practical life they dont see this.
Doesn't anyone here think that what the feminist struggle has given us is freedom of choice? Freedom of choice not only for women, but for men too. We can choose what we want to do in life. We can stay at home and look after the kids or go out and work. Each choice has its own advantages and neither is superior.
The woman in your story does the same job day after day but so does the man. They cannot change their roles if they wanted even if they were better suited to perform other roles. Can the woman, if she was a crack archer, go out hunting?
Just 100 years ago, women were not allowed to vote and hence had no say in the laws that affected them. They had to follow what the men decided because there was no other way out. We are more in charge of our own lives. That is what feminists have given us.
Women that have wanted to take charge of their lives have done so no matter what day and age it's been.
My mother was born in 1921. Education was not encouraged for women when she was growing up. She studied.
Working was frowned upon when she was a young woman. Her husband and collective family's decision to migrate to Pakistan in 1947 forced her into a financial fix. She went back to school, trained and started work.
She continued to study and work after she migrated to Canada. She didn't stop studying/learning until the last three years of her life, which she spent in the hospital with morphine patches on her body.
The crux of what I am trying to say is this.....
Feminism has not given us the right to choose, we've always had that. If we are Muslims then we were born with the right.
Feminism/feminazis have affected the system so drastically that they have pushed unwilling women into a rat race that refuses to benefit anyone. Societal pressures force women into power struggles, invalid comparisons of strength, intellect and earning potential. Why? Just to prove, "Anything you can do, I can do......maybe even better."
Is that where women want to be?
Is that where YOU want to be?
And one more thing:
Our lives are not dictated by any list of factors. If the cart is not before the horse then we dictate our own lives by controlling those factors.
“Feminism has not given us the right to choose, we’ve always had that. If we are Muslims then we were born with the right.”
again with the self righteous muslim bullsiht…this is a right not just exclusive to muslim women. you people make muslims out to be some alien speicies.
the facts on teh ground are just the opposite. Muslim women are much less educated than their male counterparts.
Aisha got it absolutely right. It is about having a choice. women didn’thave a choice and had pre-defined roles as per a patriarchal social system. the liberation movement gave us female scientists, pilots, bankers, consultants..a role other than squeezing puppies out and doing the laudry..which is a noble role in itself but not better or worse than the alternatives nopw available…all thanks to feminism.
