I went to pakistan last year after long time since then i am thinking about it. some people in pakistan think that pakistani girls who lives in united states or any other country like that live their life just like that culture. i mean they think, us girls go out with guys, have relationship with them and do other stuff. which i think is not true for a lot girls here since we are muslims and know our limits. so my question is why do they think like that? i mean not everyone is same yeah there are some bad ones but that doesn’t mean you blame everyone? and guys i am not talking about all its just some people who think this way. so i need your opinions on this…
if it’s any consolation sk, people make the same stereotypes of girls living in Pakistan.. that they are well behaved, and know how to cook and clean and are ‘shareef’ and don’t know what bf’s are etc..
PA: Yar, of course girls from the metropolitan cities here do know almost everything under the sun, but its not necessary that whatever you know, should be put at public displays. Hena?
Being exposed to a relatively open society doesn’t necessarily make you a part of the group. Much the same thing as being part of a smoker/drinking group doesn’t necessarily make you one. The right to choice is ours.
You know what!....
I think 'Logon ke moun bohat bolte hein'
You cant tell them to mind their own business....they will talk like that and behind your back!....you cant tell them to be quite!
I dont mean to be rude or anything....but only you, yourself and Allah knows about the good or the bad things you have been doing...so other people have no right to interfear and make their own decisions and conclusions...right?
It is always the girls kasoor...they never think of the boy....as he is just a man...they always think of the girl as being bad....so this is the culture...and we are nobody to change it...thats the way thing are!
Living i UK is no biggie.....and i presume thet i am more islamic and 'parahise' then the girls in Pakistan! My pearnts have taught me well....and i obey them....i never reach the extend line and im aware of that..I know my Islamic knowledge and i follow it with all my heart...i read namazein 5 times aday...and nobody is going to stick a finger at me and saying that im one of them as i can show from the purity of my heart that im a good muslim, a good sister and a daughter....
Aab ijazat chahtie houn...
Allah ha fiz
Take care
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Originally posted by Aashi: You know what!....
I think 'Logon ke moun bohat bolte hein'
You cant tell them to mind their own business....they will talk like that and behind your back!....you cant tell them to be quite!
I dont mean to be rude or anything....but only you, yourself and Allah knows about the good or the bad things you have been doing...so other people have no right to interfear and make their own decisions and conclusions...right?
It is always the girls kasoor...they never think of the boy....as he is just a man...they always think of the girl as being bad....so this is the culture...and we are nobody to change it...thats the way thing are!
Living i UK is no biggie.....and i presume thet i am more islamic and 'parahise' then the girls in Pakistan! My pearnts have taught me well....and i obey them....i never reach the extend line and im aware of that..I know my Islamic knowledge and i follow it with all my heart...i read namazein 5 times aday...and nobody is going to stick a finger at me and saying that im one of them as i can show from the purity of my heart that im a good muslim, a good sister and a daughter....
Aab ijazat chahtie houn...
Allah ha fiz
Take care
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yeah Aashi i totally agree with you on this. my parents have taugh me the same way urs did and yeah i think its true that some of girls here are far more better then girls living in pakistan. we follow islam and say our prayers 5 times reglarly. we can't stop what people say but its true that Allah knows whats right and whats wrong.
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I have heard some similar stuff aswell, I haven't had a similar experience myself but heard from friends. Its just that they have this image of us girls living abroad and the first thing which comes to their mind is "kitnay boyfriends heiN?" I was so surprised when one of my friends told me about her experience. I think its because of the culture we live in or are brought up in, which leads for them to think in a certain way. Its just like they say "jitnay mouN utni hi bateiN". I wouldn't really worry about it, they can think what they like, we know our religion and what it teaches us. As for them they should learn to stop generalising.
Stereotyping is on BOTH sides but it is worse in PAkistan ABOUT ppls.in the west
Stereotype again is result of less education or inadequate education…not knowing the FULL story only partial…At least ppl. abroad have a global knowledge & birds eye view rather than TUNNEL view that people in lesser informed population of Pakistan
If you take the remark in the light of this BACKGROUND …you can ‘take it with a pinch of salt’ so to say .So be strong & not too fragile & sensitive about IGNORENT remarks!
yea i have a similar problem
whenever i go to pak n the whole khaandaan goes to visit sum long 4gotten realtive they think my cuzin is the one from dubai just cuz she's fashionable and wears make up n all dat...n when i tell them its me...they just say sumthing like..."oh..u dont look like ur'e from dubai" just cuz i dont wear make up and am dressed simply...
really ticks me off..!!!