A friend of mine has been in love with this guy for the last 10 months, and the problem with her is that she has been jotting down word-to-word conversations that take place between her and that guy in her diary, whether they are written or oral. In this manner, she has around more than 145 lengthy conversations saved in hand-written form, each of 5-6 pages, and sometimes exceeding 9, alternating between Facebook, chat messengers, SMSs, voice chats and face to face ones. Though he does not even know the 10% of her, neither he knows that she loves him. They are quite strangers to each other.
Is she graduating towards abnormality, disturbing obsession or what? This is affecting her studies and mental state as well. She is always restless and in a state of confusion. Is it normal for a normal person?
Need counseling in that regard. =\
Lol, isn’t reading her guy’s words an indication to him of being dead? Does she do this to make sure that this guy really exists? It’s not normal… Can you all please come up with advices? =
He’s been talking to her for ten months on a variety of ways that you listed, and you assess that he doesn’t even know 10% of her personality. They don’t talk about each other then? So it’s (for example) just about like movies and books and music and stuff?
They are still strangers, the guy doesn’t know even 10% of her and she is still in LOVE with him. At least, she should be smart enough to know whether the guy wants to consider a relationship with her or not.
Her recording every conversation in the diary might make some sense if the guy has confessed his love for her (then again, this is not something healthy and it is definitely an obsession).
Ask your friend to try to probe the guy what he thinks of her. She should first try to find whether the guy is interested in her or not. If not, your friend should accept the reality asap and save herself from becoming a mentally sick person. If the guy is interested, she can continue with her obsession (although its still not healthy for her).
Lol, I can only say that, deewanoun ki ye baatein deewanay jantay hain…
From what I have gathered, what they talk about is more of pleasure, s**, ma*******ion.. Need I go on?
To tell you the truth, it’s a strange relationship whose basis is fantasy and artificiality. Maybe this is the reason that she’s gotten so much obsessed with him? They haven’t met in real. She’s in a state of confusion cuz she has no idea where this “unique” relationship is going, so she pens all of the conversations so that she can re-read them again and again and again. He seems uninterested in knowing the other aspects of her personality. They have been intimate for so long, but still; she doesn’t have the courage to confess her love to him. She’s scared of the “what if” scenario.
Lol, as the saying goes, love is blind, dumb, deaf and whatnot. Read my reply above, to “partyslims”
Okay, well if he’s just using her to get his rocks off and doesn’t care for much else, then i’m afraid she is gonna get pretty hurt , and by the looks of it, she already is. Try to wean her off of him.
Okay, and could you please temme what can she do herself to get rid of the thoughts of this guy and ignore him and make him feel that what he’s doing is totally wrong and all? Cuz that guy is a rationalist and one can only convince him through strong reasons.
