Are you comfortable knowing that a boy’s sister has a role to play in a decision about you?
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If it's positive, sure. If negative, please don't tell me.
But I would get my siblings' opinions and assess them against my own experience with the person. There's always the possibility that you are not seeing something that's right there.
My brother asked me how I felt about my sis in law before they got married. I am sure he wasn't going to solely rely on my perception of her, but yeah, he asked. I liked her then and I like her now.
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Are you comfortable knowing that a boy's sister has a role to play in a decision about you?
It doesn't bother me.
It rarely happens that someone finds the one and doesn't discuss it with anyone and take the big step. Most people want to discuss their future spouse with family and close friends. I really don't think anyone can talk you out it if your heart is set on marrying someone - even if that someone is your sister.
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It's not just the sister, but the whole family that will play a role. They will offer input and opinions whether sought or not. It's the degree of involvement and the reasons for disapproval that can become an issue. But there are rishtas that overcome really strong disapproval and drama from family members and result in marriage. So, that's why I think that if it's in one's qismat to phir ho kar hi rahay ga. Just my 2 cents.
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It would be too weird for me if my sis knew or met a girl before even I did for marriage purposes. But then again, it is those family connections you have to rely on to find someone.
I would personally like to meet some for a coffee before having my family involved but as I said it is difficult to find someone on your own. Place where I live there are no brown chicks and online websites have girls that live >100 miles away so I don't think that would be possible. Ultimately, family do get involved but I do not prefer it
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^Yeah, but it doesn't matter if you meet the girl before family. Your family will still give you their input. The only difference is that you'd have formed a greater attachment to her if you found her on your own and might be able to take a stronger stand for her. But it won't deter family from voicing their opinions.
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Real men make their own decisions, If you can't make that decision, you should wait untill you grow up.
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Pcg why do you think it is something one should care about?
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^That is what i was thinking.
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yea increasing life1 activity. and btw as long as the guy is treating his wife well, who was involved in the rishta process or not hardly matters.
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Ummmm... yeah? probably means they are closer to each other.
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Are you comfortable knowing that a boy's sister has a role to play in a decision about you?
yes
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Sure why not. Family is and should be important and hence should be part of your major decision making process.
however nobody should have the kind of influence on u where u loose yr objectivity.
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Comfortable? Yes.
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Pcg why do you think it is something one should care about?
I don't get why she starts a thread and then totally abandons it by not posting in it again lol
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Rishta without family input? Yeh to Lovestory main hota hai sirf.
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I don't get why she starts a thread and then totally abandons it by not posting in it again lol
usay hum achay nahi lagtay.