After getting married, would you allow your wife to keep contact with her male friends like classmates, cousins who stayed close with her or online contacts even? If any of them call for her to ask how she is doing or even just come to visit or she invite herself someone for dinner (with your presence, ofcourse) would you allow it? or wouldn’t you? Some old friend ‘accidentally’ bumps into her on the road while shopping (or something of the sort) would you give him bad looks and start thinking ‘odd’ thoughts? or would you keep a positive impression about the situation?
On extreme cases, if she had loved someone before you, but couldn’t marry him for any reason and he just saw her while you were out with her and come to say the norm of ‘hi hello’ what would be your reaction?
same question for girls:
with ofcourse, husband instead of wife and your husband’s female friends…
My hubby does not usually mind the occasional hi(s) and hellos from male friends/colleagues/former classmates. In fact he loves meeting them when we go back to my country(guys/girls).
But he'll definitely not approve spending too much time, talking for long hours or unending texts to a male 'friend'!!
In fact, I know very few guys who would accept their wives spending too much time with another guy!
*I am kind of bagerat, I wouldn't mind, because mai shaadi kay baad khud bohat bara tharki and poond hooNga, to agar beewi kar lay to konsi qiyamat a jaye gi. Muje lagta hai insaan ko bagerat ho kar zindagi guzarni chahiye, aur agar beewi kahi aur mooN maar bi lay to koi baat nahi, bas usko samja dooNga kay agar tum nay usay milne jana hai to lemmi know mai tumhe drop kar dooNga.
I think casual Hi, Hello is fine but wouldn't appreciate it if he's having extended conversations with his female friends. I know he doesn't mind me saying hi or running into former classmates/colleagues..etc but probably wouln't like me hanging out with them after work or something. I wouldn't want to either.
And just a question, if a person had loved someone else before marriage...etc....WHY would they want to keep in touch? And if the person still isn't over that love, then they shouldn't be getting married so soon with someone else in their heart...you know. And now that they are married, they should leave the past behind & focus on making marriage strong.
i think it speaks of insecurity if you put restrictions on your partners. men and women should both be aware that they're in a committed relationship (if they are in one), and if they trust one another, then whats the big deal? my husband works with girls, he's friends with girls, and he has client's who are girls, as do i. neither one of us has any cause to feel insecure, and he's even in touch with an ex of his and they get along fine! so long as you're not hiding things from one another, i think its ok. communication is good! :)
eww ex in the family...weird...
hehe
how do people actually ever fall for cousins? Sorry I apologize in advance to any folks who are in relationships with cousins....but in MY opinion..that's just odd. Like if all my life I have been calling someone "Bhai" how do you suddenly start liking that person....just my opinion.
^ agreed. it weirds me out, even though my parents are second cousins, but thank goodness, they didn't socialize much so it was sort of like marrying a stranger.