A friend approached me to check if i am interested to consider a Rishat from Canada for my daughter.
Personally i am not too keen in sending her so far away, however i am still keeping open mind in case of any very good Rishta.
She is graduate from a top business school in Asia, currently working in a regional position with a US IT giant. Generally she is very healthy but has history of Asthma (mild) , and has sensitive nose thus generally avoid cold things.
I shared this with her, she is afraid that due to her medical history she is not suitable to move in cold counties.
Although i am not keen as well, as we are decent business family, already having a good passport. But in case of any good proposal certainly like to consider.
I would appreciate if someone have knowledge/ experience of this type issues moved to that part of world, could share their knowledge.
Although i am not keen as well, as we are decent business family,** already having a good passport.**
Shouldn't your priority be in finding out if the guy comes from a good family, how he behaves and acts, his character, etc... instead of worrying about a "good passport" ?
Before worrying about the temperature, I think you should take a look at the reasons for marriage first. just my honest opinion.
this is strange that a father is doing this post...usually, a friend or sister wud do this...anyways, good luck and iA she'll find a good match. aameen
There are milllions of ppl in Canada that have severe Asthma...and they are all surviving! I wouldn't even consider that an issue!! Trust me she will be fine!!
Shouldn't your priority be in finding out if the guy comes from a good family, how he behaves and acts, his character, etc... instead of worrying about a "good passport" ?
Before worrying about the temperature, I think you should take a look at the reasons for marriage first. just my honest opinion.
What i mean that we would not marry her becouse of passport, there is no prestige issue for us marrying her in US/ Canada.
I would certainly prefer something closer to home, as here she has best of both world.
If she is not suitable to stay in that environment because of health reason, there is no point even for me checking out for suitability.
this is strange that a father is doing this post...usually, a friend or sister wud do this...anyways, good luck and iA she'll find a good match. aameen
Yes it might be strange, but we have funny type of relationship. I am his friend and mentor. I always like to do my homework before talking to her.
On Rishta part, lets put it this way, i would rather play a role of facilitator then decision maker.
As mentioned earlier, she has a good education, a good passport, and a good career track (part of Asia Pacific marketing management team of major US giant). Sending her so far away is our least priority, we are not keen on marrying her anything but genuine interest.
I shared this with her, she is afraid that due to her medical history she is not suitable to move in cold counties.
I think you should consult her general physician or family doctor about this. I mean maybe it might aggravate her asthma or maybe it wont. If your only concern is medical then its better to talk to a doctor who has been seeing her for a long time who knows her history.
Other than that, if she can happily move to canada its fine. but then she wont able to keep her job i assume? What does your daughter say about this proposal?
Yes it might be strange, but we have funny type of relationship. I am his friend and mentor. I always like to do my homework before talking to her.
On Rishta part, lets put it this way, i would rather play a role of facilitator then decision maker.
As mentioned earlier, she has a good education, a good passport, and a good career track (part of Asia Pacific marketing management team of major US giant). Sending her so far away is our least priority, we are not keen on marrying her anything but genuine interest.
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from ur initial post, its quite obvious that u ARE loking for rishta in the west but u are pretending as if u are NOT looking rishta in North America.
in today's world, no place is far. i used to live in india and Bombay was considered a far off place and it took atleat 24 hours to get to my town, Lucknow...now, a non stop flight from Chicago to Delhi takes only 15...far less than 24 hours from Bombay. if u've money in north america, u are ok coz u can get to wherever u wanna go within 24 hours.
As far as health problems are concerned, Canada/USA are teh best places to be when it comes to getting proper treatment and prevention and its FREE in Canada. here, the exposure to the elements is less than a few minutes. everything is heated so cold temperatures don't matter.
A friend approached me to check if i am interested to consider a Rishat from Canada for my daughter.
Personally i am not too keen in sending her so far away, however i am still keeping open mind in case of any very good Rishta.
She is graduate from a top business school in Asia, currently working in a regional position with a US IT giant. Generally she is very healthy but has history of Asthma (mild) , and has sensitive nose thus generally avoid cold things.
I shared this with her, she is afraid that due to her medical history she is not suitable to move in cold counties.
Although i am not keen as well, as we are decent business family, already having a good passport. But in case of any good proposal certainly like to consider.
I would appreciate if someone have knowledge/ experience of this type issues moved to that part of world, could share their knowledge.
Look obviously your daughter means alot to you. If your having doubts and not feeling this rishta. Theres gonna be alot more rishtas out there. Dont rush it take your time. And dont send her too far away. If she is your only daughter do whats in her best interests.
Im the only daughter and there is no chance my dad would send me anywhere other than where im from. Simply because he will always want to see if im ok. HOWEVER if you know this family well then only you know the answer to it.
And btw dont worry about the asthma or her 'sensitive nose' Most people have that and survive. Also theres hot n cold n every country. Jus dont do anything your going to regret in the long run. Good luck.
from ur initial post, its quite obvious that u ARE loking for rishta in the west but u are pretending as if u are NOT looking rishta in North America.
Take a chill pill dude.. where did he say he is looking for a rishta in the West you freshy?
Read his posts again, poor father is asking " IF THAT RISHTA HAPPENS TO BE OKAY AND APPROVED BY THEM WOULD IT AFFECT HIS DAUGHTER"S HEALTH SINCE SHE HAS AN ASTHMA"
You started giving him lectures as if that's what he needs at the moment.. just understand the question and help him out rather than being so smart and yacking rubbish.
Yo uncle tipusultan: Here's what I think.. after doing all the research on a guy and doing the isthikara, if you think this rishta is still suitable then go ahead do it.. I don't know where about Asia do you live but pollution is the main factor worsening the condition of an asthmatic person more than living in a cold country . At least Canada doesn't fall into this though, plus they go good doctors over there who could help her in a situation like that… and also it's often allergic disorder of respiration.. so like someone said earlier just careful during summer time due to pollen growth and stuff.. but yeah that's about it.
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from ur initial post, its quite obvious that u ARE loking for rishta in the west but u are pretending as if u are NOT looking rishta in North America.
once again, i wish ur daughter the best! aameen**
Dear friend
With due respect, i have nothing to pretend, the reason i mentioned about passport issue, i do not wish anyone to consider me a visa seeker for my children.
Yet! you have done exactly same.
We are happy with our Singapore Citizenship, as here we have best of both world, one of the best education, health system in the world. Efficient civil service, drug free society with one of the lowest crime rate in the world.
There are more then 70 masjids around the tiny Iceland. We have public holidays on eids. Plus Halal are not an issue as almost all fast food restaurant only serves Halal food.
Come to distance from the home, many times i have seen people from north america unable to attend funeral for love one due to distance and flight arrangement.
Singapore is just 7-8 hours flight away from home, I was able to reach home in time when my parents passed away, even my wife was able to reach her father's funeral (it means a lot to me)
After spending 20 odd years here, the only place i wish to go and die is Pakistan (infact my two children already moved to Pakistan two years ago).
I would appreciate your kind understanding at least about my intentions.
Take a chill pill dude.. where did he say he is looking for a rishta in the West you freshy?
Read his posts again, poor father is asking " IF THAT RISHTA HAPPENS TO BE OKAY AND APPROVED BY THEM WOULD IT AFFECT HIS DAUGHTER"S HEALTH SINCE SHE HAS AN ASTHMA"
You started giving him lectures as if that's what he needs at the moment.. just understand the question and help him out rather than being so smart and yacking rubbish.
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would u mind ur language coz maiN bad-tameez logoN se baat nahiiN kartaa...khaamosh rahnaa bahtar hai kisi bad-tameez ke muNh lagne se**
With due respect, i have nothing to pretend, the reason i mentioned about passport issue, i do not wish anyone to consider me a visa seeker for my children.
Yet! you have done exactly same.
We are happy with our Singapore Citizenship, as here we have best of both world, one of the best education, health system in the world. Efficient civil service, drug free society with one of the lowest crime rate in the world.
There are more then 70 masjids around the tiny Iceland. We have public holidays on eids. Plus Halal are not an issue as almost all fast food restaurant only serves Halal food.
Come to distance from the home, many times i have seen people from north america unable to attend funeral for love one due to distance and flight arrangement.
Singapore is just 7-8 hours flight away from home, I was able to reach home in time when my parents passed away, even my wife was able to reach her father's funeral (it means a lot to me)
After spending 20 odd years here, the only place i wish to go and die is Pakistan (infact my two children already moved to Pakistan two years ago).
I would appreciate your kind understanding at least about my intentions.
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i said its not too difficult to reach from here too...i've been here for a long time and i did manage to get in time...i've been to Sngapore and i know whats it like. its a nice place no doubt.**
this is strange that a father is doing this post...usually, a friend or sister wud do this...anyways, good luck and iA she'll find a good match. aameen
sorry for hijacking the thread, but what is wrong or strange about a father looking out for his daughter? why does the woman (who possibly may not know the girl as well as the father) do the rishta hunt only?
sorry for hijacking the thread, but what is wrong or strange about a father looking out for his daughter? why does the woman (who possibly may not know the girl as well as the father) do the rishta hunt only?
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its usuallly not our tradition. in our culture [indo pak muslim culture] fathers don't do this. in older times, even girl's family didn't send rishta...it was the boy's family's moral obligation to send rishta. and that was the norm. i admit times and things are changing but we are NOT there yet...it may takle sometime. i'm a bit traditionalist so it was kinda ODD to me.**
sorry for hijacking the thread, but what is wrong or strange about a father looking out for his daughter? why does the woman (who possibly may not know the girl as well as the father) do the rishta hunt only?
would u mind ur language coz maiN bad-tameez logoN se baat nahiiN kartaa...khaamosh rahnaa bahtar hai kisi bad-tameez ke muNh lagne se
Excuse me, he/she was not being 'badtameez' at all. YOU were to the Uncle. Just because hes asking advice as you DO on this website thats what its for! Dont assume that hes looking for people in the 'west' As he CLEARLY stated.
Honestly i wish people would READ before they put their 2penny worth in.