What should one do when their parents are on a cold war??
In most of the cases its like the children know which one of their parents is at mistake or they consider both of them wrong and equally responsible… but what should be done when none of them seems to be wrong and both make sense. Just that one of them is explosive while the other is implosive.
the explosive one usually explodes at the children that they cant even stand up for him/her while the other one is of the view that kids should be kept away from such problems but its pretty much evident that even he is disturbed…
Is it a good idea for the kid to go live at somebody else’s place for some time to get a break? knowing that this would definitly hurt both the parents…?
I dont think its appropriate for the kid to leave the house. What would it imply? that he is too selfish to stay in the bitter situations?
I think I would have talked to the explosive parent first, try to console them and have all their anger vented so that they can become reasonable. And then I would arrange a table talk where the issues could be settled in a friendly and polite atmosphere. The kid has to be very very tactful as not to offend one parent in order to justify the other. Both have their rights and privileges and should be observed likewise.
As long as my parents are arguing and busy bikering ,they are ok and nothing to worry about but when they are quiet and mad ,thats when its worrysome so i being the phappay kutni, keep mentioning things so they end up arguing and it takes some 3-4 or more arguments to be just normal.Thats how they work.
just keep your relation good with both of them and keep pressuring them to solve dispute as soon as possible.
let them know that their problem is annoying you.
What should one do when their parents are on a cold war??
In most of the cases its like the children know which one of their parents is at mistake or they consider both of them wrong and equally responsible........ but what should be done when none of them seems to be wrong and both make sense. Just that one of them is explosive while the other is implosive.
the explosive one usually explodes at the children that they cant even stand up for him/her while the other one is of the view that kids should be kept away from such problems but its pretty much evident that even he is disturbed....
Is it a good idea for the kid to go live at somebody else's place for some time to get a break? knowing that this would definitly hurt both the parents...........?
If you are a kid its hard to interfere in such matters. we usually just keep watching silently. however if you are old enough then i think the kid should step in to resolve the matter. Now the problem is what if you think both of them are right? well in that case maybe the kid should tell his/her parents that s/he thinks both of them are right and therefore both of them should say sorry to each other and end the matter now.
No its not a good idea at all to live somewhere else while the parents are fighting. bahar walon ko kyon mouqa dain ke unhe ghar ki baaton ka pata chale. ghar ki baatain ghar hi main rehni chahiyain.
the explosive one usually explodes at the children that they cant even stand up for him/her while the other one is of the view that kids should be kept away from such problems but its pretty much evident that even he is disturbed....
I see this quite often. Parents in the middle of bitter divorces and one (or both) drag their children in the middle and expect the children to "choose" one parent. In my humble opinion, this is emotional torture to the child.
If the parents are fighting, the child needs to stay out of it UNLESS one of the parent is being abused by the other. If one (or both) parent is dragging the child in the middle, and verbally abusing the child (or as you put it..."exploding" at the child) due to the conflict in the marriage, then yes, the child should live with another family member or friend temporarily while the parents work on their issue.
For a child to stay inside the house and watch/hear the parents have nasty fights....for a child to stay in the house and actually have a parents "explode" at him/her due to the stress.....this doesn't have a single benefit for the child or the family. It only leads to more stress, confusion, anger, and sadness for the child.
It is not a child's job to play mediator for their parents. Parents must act like the adults they are and resolve their own issues.
If the children are adult children, they can try to facilitate a resolution, but it is not their responsibility and their involvement should be limited since playing favourites or siding with one parent over the other just leads to bigger issues down the road.
What should one do when their parents are on a cold war??
In most of the cases its like the children know which one of their parents is at mistake or they consider both of them wrong and equally responsible........ but what should be done when none of them seems to be wrong and both make sense. Just that one of them is explosive while the other is implosive.
the explosive one usually explodes at the children that they cant even stand up for him/her while the other one is of the view that kids should be kept away from such problems but its pretty much evident that even he is disturbed....
Is it a good idea for the kid to go live at somebody else's place for some time to get a break? knowing that this would definitly hurt both the parents...........?