Currently a friend of mine is going through a rishta process and she told me that families always ask her which high skool she went to (she has graduated from uni already) but they still ask her bout high skool..
does ny1 know y/? she’s in North america so it’s not like potential families can do background check via high skool cuz after the age of 18 high schools are not even allowed to give grades to parents without the consent of student..
so does ny1 know wat the reason could be behind it..?
Maybe their all just genuinely curious?? lol
Or
They want to see if they know anyone your friend went to highschool with to check out what kind of a person they were back then in the younger years!!
But that's a pretty silly question to ask...who really cares??!!!
^Ugh. So definitely sounds like a reputation check situation to me. Ick.
she has been out of high skool for good 6 years now..shudnt they rather check university instead of high skool?? unis r easier to check too cuz there r only # of unis in a city so chances of u finding ppl from tat uni r higher than finding sum1 from high skool who also attnded the same skool at the same tym..
n it's not just 1 family..it's all the families so it seems like a norm..u think it cud b sum other reason??
I'm probably the least qualified person to offer an opinion on this since I've never been through the rishta process. But my guess is that maybe they want to make sure she didn't have a wild period in high school before settling down and getting her act together at university? But maybe I'm being cynical---maybe it's just an innocent way to try to get to know her better.
^^ yea maybe they wanted to know what kind of a school it was...like private one, or a drug infested one...(which all high schools unfortuntly are), but yea maybe they just wanted to compare upbringing since they live in the same city!?! who knows??
^If I asked this question of anyone, I think that's the subtle info I'd be looking for. Education is a big thing in our household. It would be a somewhat of a deal if a prospective rishta for one of my brother's went to a completely different kind of school. Or if for example, her brothers were sent to private school and she wasn't... says a lot about a family.
that could also be it...but then shouldn't the university (if the person is older and attended) matter more?
In the UK, I think both play a part. Like it would say a lot of someone went to a rubbish school but still got into a really good uni. Or if someone went to private school, the kind of people they probably associated with. It's not definitive by any means but experiences colour a life.
My brother m'A passed the entrance exams for a long list of private and selective schools and received number of scholarships. My father decided to send him to a selective rather than a private school (even tho his tuition would have been paid) as he wanted him to be with other children who also had to work hard for their place. He chose education over status (coz trust me, we know people who went to those schools and don't they like you to know it).
