Re: ...A Question to Ladies...
answer to first question: don't even bother. you have to be proven over the years that whatever advice you give, it is relevant and good to the topic. and since mashallah say all my elders are still alive, therefore the next generations are still young. therefore, their opinions are not taken into consideration. so, basically, jab ammi aur papa hi choti si baat nahin suntay to khalain waghaira to bahar ki baat hai.
answer to second question: i have cousins, whose opinions are asked by the elders, namely my mamoon, but, yea, one of them is a guy. he is approached when there is a huge family crisis, among others. but on the other hand, his sister, is good for fashion and stuff. i don't think i recall a moment when she was asked her opinion of what should happen. but i am not saying it is done because he is a guy, basically, i have heard from my mamoon that he has grown over the years, and that he does give good advice or opinions. but then again, his sister, she doesn't speak when something happens. and you know what, i have noticed that usually whatever my brother says, my ammi always listens to him. par if i tell my ammi, kay gari kay wipers on kar lain, she didn't listen to what i say. and that really irked me. like, my opinion doesn't really matter? so it's almost like i am not even a contributing member of the family. but i have seen that my dad would ask me about most of the stuff. not big issues ofcourse ( cause i am still a bachi compared to others) but big enough.