I often wonder how does the fact that girls can get sexual attention from and have sexual relationships with men, far more attractive than themselves, affect their self perception and their expectations of the kind of husband they deserve / can land?
As men we are extremely aware of whether a girl is in our league or not. We know we have to exceed a woman in terms of looks, social worth, status, charm, confidence, etc in order to get sexual attention from her. We therefore don’t face this problem.
But women don’t seem to be restricted by “leagues” as far as short term relationships are concerned. An average looking girl, with a wall flower personality, working a dead end job can have an off the radar fling with the hot, successful, highly social guy at the workplace / college, etc.
But obviously such boundaries and leagues become painfully obvious when women go into the marriage marketplace. So my question is: Do women consciously know this? Are women, who get into short term relationships and flings with guys far more attractive than themselves, aware and prepared for the fact that they will someday end up marrying a guy much less attractive and exciting than what they’ve experienced before?
Or do they tend to be unaware of this dynamic/phenomenon and believe that their short term partners accurately reflect their options for a husband, only to be disappointed and unhappy later in life?
I've seen some not-so-great looking guys be with much more attractive and eligible girls so it's not always how you say it is.
Everyone has a different set of priorities and values. Guy or girl, there will be a variation in whether they value looks, money, education, faith, or any other factor most in their potential partner.
Yes a beautiful personality can easily overcome a shortage in the looks department but that's true for both girls and guys.
The short-term flings with the uber-attractive guys you speak of may not have culminated in marriage because those guys were not looking for a serious commitment in the first place. They could just be seeking sexual variety as u mentioned in the other thread or want to prove to themselves that they can get any and every girl. These experiences may lead the average-looking-girl to realize that there are better chances for a lesser attractive guy to be a more committed husband. Also, they say that people tend to marry people similar to them in looks. Chances are that when the uber-hot guy does decide to settle down, he's most likely going to marry that is on his level looks-wise.
"Are women prepared for the fact that they will someday marry a guy that is less attractive/exciting?" Well, there are exceptions to the generalization but very attractive people can have their nakhray and other qualities/tendencies that can kill the "excitement" and eventually the relationship itself. It seems you're thinking more of sexual excitement whereas there are other qualities that also make a relation exciting (on a deeper level) such as intellectual compatibility, having similar values, interests, etc etc. Physical attraction will only go so far if the other needs (emotional/mental/etc) are not being met or if there's lack of compatibility in other areas. That can lead people (of both genders) to marry someone who is maybe a little less attractive but meets their other, more deeper needs and possesses qualities that would make them dependable partners for the long haul.
Mutual physical attraction is important, but you are making that the sole basis for overall happiness/satisfaction in a marriage. If you get a partner that has decent looks...you're not turned off by them...who respects you, appreciates you, is dependable, consistent......all the traits you didn't find in the x number of flings with very good looking men you had in the past....then yes it's possible to not only be very happy in the future but also grateful that those exciting flings didn't result in marriage.
I don't think looks or color matter that much . at the end of the day its your relationship with the other. average looking girls end up with both kinds of people , very smart to just ordinary depending on their mental approach.
In my experience, I have seen more of very attractive girls, way out of the league of their husband, SO etc. than the other way around. And in most cases, they are quite happy because they give personality a higher priority than looks. And I am sure in the cases this scenario is reversed, same dynamic applies.