Re: A queer feminist Muslim you should meet
I disagree. She is blatantly breaking rules and offering up rationale for why it’s okay to do so. Fine, she can live as she likes and she should be able to offer her perspective without being mocked or disrespected, as some in this thread are doing, but she should also simply own up to the fact that she knowingly breaks rules.
There is actually research to suggest the potential downsides of cohabitation and premarital sex, more so for women than men (don’t blame me, blame mother nature), resulting in increased rates of divorce and less marital satisfaction. Although, the latter also applies to men but to a lesser degree. And obviously, these findings may not imply causation, just correlation.
Abortion is a whole other issue and again, there are moral arguments to be made for not terminating a pregnancy simply for convenience. I think it’s reckless that she suggests abortion as an alternative to being moderate with your sexual impulses.
Again, she is fine to live as she likes. She is also correct that a belief in God is one of the most important tenets of Islam. She is wrong, however, in asserting that her lifestyle is what exemplary of one following Islam. And you know what, that’s fine. Many of us break religious rules. IMy stance is that you can do what you like in private, just don’t try to sway me to your moral structure, and if you do, you damn well better be well informed and your logic better be well reasoned, because I’m definitely going to try and skewer you.
Edit: To add to your recent post, there are things in religion which are open for interpretation, and other that are pretty ironclad. She’s muddling the two under the pretense of open mindedness. Again, I have no issue with what she wants to do, but don’t try to pass it off as religious interpretation. Own up to the fact that you’re choosing to ignore rules that are definitely not open for interpretation, e.g. premarital sex.
Here is why i disagree with you. In her case she got no choice but to have “sex outside marriage”. I don’t believe she used works premarital sex.
so for her sex outside marriage only option.
As for interpretation of ANY religion being varied just look around u. Ahmed I non Ahmed I Shia sunny just within islam. Every religion has room for interpretation. And she has every right to her interpretation.