A PreLude to the Terrible Twos

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@_MuNiYa

Salaam Everyone -
I need all the parental support I can get right now. I’m really struggling with my 22 month old son on a number of things.

The first and worst problem is his hitting people.
He will straight slap people and throw things that arent working his way.
So far I’ve tried:

• Ignoring him, he’ll continue to hit
• holding his hands back and he bashes his head into places
• the bad boy chair, he’ll sit here as long as you tell him to and cry himself to a bumbling mess but will get off the chair and continue to hit the same person again.

He’s incredibly ziddi - to the point that it makes me wanna cry! Literally.

The 2nd problem is his sleeping habits; he still needs someone to put him to bed in our laps. We’ve tried it all, gave him his own big boy bed, his favorite characters on his bedsheets sat next to him but he will stay up all night if need be. And most nights he’ll get off his bed and crawl into bed with us. Which is bad enough but that leads me to my 3rd problem - the boy scratches me to the point that I’ve got scars permanently. IS this a deficency or something? He always needs physical contact even (especially) in his sleep.

Hitting problem my son had that but not now.He has grown out of it but we had to work a lot with him. First we gave him time outs which is necessary .He will give you hard time by screaming,banging head but when he will see that no one is listening he will not do it anymore.Second we taught him “hands are for helping ;not hurting” .Another solution which is not so good but anyways is that buy him punching bag so he can hit bat many time on punching bag and let his frustration out. But tell him people get hurt don’t hit them it hurts mommy,daddy everyone.Mainly in our case “hands are for helping;not hurting” thing work. But trust me you need to have a heart and keep telling them patiently please don’t hurt it hurts mummy.

For sleep I think he feels insecure and its totally normal they will stop coming when they will be 4 or 5. He is just 2 years old.Just give him bath before bed, read him story and lay down next to him until he sleeps.Children at this age feels comfortable when they are closer to their mommies and feel secure.May be some dream is bothering them that’s why they come.One thing you can do is whenever he comes you or your husband goes back with him in his bed and put him back to sleep; after doing this for 2,3 months they will get in a habit to sleep in their bed for whole night.