How important is the roll of girls family for the husband? If the girl is really sweet and nice, but the girls parents are weird and non religious. Should a guy marry a girl who doesn’t have a good family background? How can it effect the future kids?
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In what sense are they not of "good background"? Alot of people use superficial things like education and job to measure how "good" they are. Like, a girl from a family of doctors/lawyers is better than a girl whose father is a cab driver. And that's definitely teh case for the guys family, i.e. "his family is all doctors, they're good ppl" etc.
On one hand, parents are the biggest influences in a kid's life. I know i have alot of my parents traits in me. But at the same time, kids can end up being more or less religious than the parents..I think, above all, you have ot look at the girl herslef, how she acts towards you, towards your family, towards HER family, her values, etc. Background is just one thing, someone from a really good background can be a total jerk and someone from bad background can come out shining.
Allah ka shukar hai I've never had to face anything of this sort in my life.
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when u marry a girl/guy you marry the entire family and in most cases (for girls especially) daughters tend to pick up their moms habits/traits when they get older...they may not now but they do eventually. ive often heard my sisters say "God im starting to sound like mom" grins
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It is important to the extent that parents play the biggest role in shaping their children's outlook on life. If you want to get an idea of what your wife may be like in 20 years, talk to her mother.
DISCLAIMER: The above statement is not always true, and is not meant in any way to stereotype or over-simplify. :)
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DISCLAIMER: The above statement is not always true, and is not meant in any way to stereotype or over-simplify. :)
exactly what I was TRYING to say....u worded it perfectly :)
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A desi marriage is a union of families. I view it as essential that the parents of any potential wife are the sort of people who would get along with my parents.
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"Marriage is a union of families." - Prophet pbuh.
So now, no matter what happens, her family is your family, you deal with it the same way you would with ur own.
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I think in any culture it's always better if the parents get along. In my family, my grandmothers became very good friends, so we just had joint holiday parties. My ILs don't speak to my parents because they are amreeki, and I know that it really hurts my mom.
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DISCLAIMER: The above statement is not always true, and is not meant in any way to stereotype or over-simplify. :)
lol yeah you should talk to her mother
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I'm marrying her, not her parents. But they are still going to be my parents too.
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trust me her mother will be playing a major role in your life not to mention having great influence on her daughter as well....it's not as easy as u think.
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If she wants to stay over at my home she's gonna have to deal with her daughter screaming in the middle of the night all the time.
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I say if the girls aite then put everthing aside. Its the girl not her parents the one will have to deal with from day to day.