A new Long Distance Relationship...

[stoppit]

Re: A new Long Distance Relationship…

@cherryontop

It’s a long distance relationship. Why are you assuming he’s going to be a dictator and she needs to live on his terms only? Of course compromise is a part of every relationship and I don’t think long distance requires a lot more compromise than usual.

Inspiron the only thing you really really need to check up on is where you guys will settle if you do get married. It’s very hard for foreign medical graduates to practice in Canada as opposed to the U.S where they are very much welcomed. You need to see if you’ll be able to practise in Canada or not. I know I had to look into that before committing coz some states in the U.S. do not readily accept my degree whereas some do. I was lucky because my husband was in a state that did accept my qualifications.

I don’t think that is what he is saying. I take it to mean that either one decides that they will go along with the other person’s future plans or lay their basic desires out on the table. This should happen in any kind of relationship in which two people are seeing marriage as the end point. The compromise comes in if the desires for the future turn out to be different.

Like the location issue is exactly this. Either she is okay living where ever she decides, whether it turns out to be good for her or not. Otherwise, she needs to make her wishes clear now. One of the first things I told my now husband is that I see myself living in the UK unless there is an exceptional circumstance not to. I was not, at that time, okay with living in Pakistan or USA which he was considering for specialisation.

And the rest as kakee pointed out… these are points to iron out although they seem perhaps too involved at this stage.

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