a multiple choice question

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thanks,
SolarOceans.

he must realize what he has done. i can come after him, only so far out.

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:hehe: PCG, I hope u didnt mind what I said. MashAllah you v changed alot :k:
I just like to tease people every now and then :k:

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change is always good as long ad 'personal stability in dealing with other people' is consistent as a good predictor of all phases through change.

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thanks solaroceans,
i know and that is why i am trying to make sense, of the mess he has created in his own life and of course my trust in him that i worked on, for a considerable period of time.
it was not a 16 years old, flirtishness skit, or crush
as adults in later 20s, we apparently were both eductaed enough to see through the flaws as well as match the good common things,
if he ever stood infront of me, as a whole human being and explained to me, why he did what he did.
his familial pressures or his own weaknesses in making a decision
his silence is telling me nothing.
all i know about him, is that he betrayed me.

as a woman, if i were to propose someone, i will do everything i can to protect him, and defend that person.
he could not do this, even though the culture and religion accords more than enough power to men to make life decisions.

dushwari

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if a girl likes a guy, but the guy doesnt like her....like a MAN, he should tell her straight away that he doesnt have them feelings for her....he can say this in a nice way and keep saying it until she understands. and these kind of guys are very respectable....a girl liked my fiance (his cousin)...but he just told her straight that he doesnt like her in that way...and just sees her as a sister....so she just backed off...thats the proper way of doing it..

the type of guys I HATE are those who lead the girl on even though they "dont like her" and play with her feelings.....get her to like them and become so attached to them...and then leave her.....sometimes its many years that they lead the girl on for....and then at the end say they dont "like her in that way".....only a cheap idiot would do something like that...if you dont like a girl, be MAN ENOUGH to tell her straight away.

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other than straight talk - may men realize that they must listen to their straight hearts which must be given their due respect and listened to.

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alriteeeeeee i m getting confused now..dushwari where u seeing any1 from this forum? i just have this feelings somehow u may choose 2 ignore my question. i feel bad for u that u r goin thru this but i cant really say anythig abt the guy unless i know the story from both ends...who knows he really didnt feel u both were meant 2gether and it wasnt family pressure? even if it was family pressure its his choice if he chooses 2 sacrifice his luv for his family...yah if he has promised u something else n in the end went away without much explaination than thats another story but really sweetheart u need 2 move on.

SJ ka Chooza ~
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maham,

thanks for the condolence, my dear.
people as potential life partners can today meet any where.
if true intentions are there then this SHOULD NOT have been the way it unfolded at his end.

it is not about moving on or not moving on at my end, it is about his moving no where.
ideals are never perfectly met. every couple knows it.
taking back a proposal in and of itself, is a very sad thing to do.

i dont want this to happen to anyone.
rest, each to her/ his own.

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ok...i dun get this what do u mean by this " ...it is about his moving no where."? r u getting a feeler from him that what he did was not what he wanted but had 2 do it under pressure? if yes than what wud u want to do with a person like that? who knows god forbid after u both get married he gets ready again 2 leave u cuz of some pressure? wud u really want to continue on with a person like that...

i know its yr life n i m sorrie if m coming out strong...i m only tryin 2 help u here....i dun know u personally or this other person involved here...what i m saying 2 u is based on what i m reading and understanding of it....