salam. hope you all are doing well this will be a long post. i apologizez for that.
a while back i met a woman online. we shared similar interests, so i approached her and i added her on my msn. as i was a bit busy, i could not talk to her all the time. but even so, i knew that she was someone i could talk to all the time. then i lost me job, and so i was at home most of the time when i wasnt looking for a job. so i was online a lot. we started talking on msn a lot now.
i told her everything about me. i told her werhe i was born, raised, what work i did, my education, my family etc. she told me everything too. she said she was unmarried and living her parents, and had other siblings and that she was the middle child. she also said that her parents were looking for a rishta for her. we started getting along very well, even more so. we could’nt wait to get online and start chatting with each other. i started really liking her and ig ot the feeling that she started liking me too. when i toldher so, i expected her to reject me outright, but instead she said she had the same feelings. it made me very happy. a few months later our like turned into love. i was ready to send to her my rishta.
i told a friend of mine about her. he then told me that what she had told me was all wrong. she wasn’t single. she was instead married. i asked him how did he know. he told me that he had known this woman from before i started talking to her. he even showed me her picture with her family. she had two kids.
i was devastated. i didn’t know what to do. how to talk to her. i then confronted her. she broke down to me and told me that she lied to me because she thought i wouldn’t accept her. i listened to everything she had to say, then i didn’t speak to her for a week. during that week i thought a lot. i figured, i love her. more than i thought i would. and i needed to be with her. i dont care if she is married or not.
i dont know what to do. i really really need to be with her. and yes i am having an affair with a married woman now. its not my fault my heart decided to love someone. i love her for who she is, not waht her marital status is.
hang on, im suspecious now, who are you why do you affair with married women tell me that
you have no shame?
i didn't know she was married at the time i started courting her. the truth came out only later. and by that time it was too late :) have you never been in love?
brother i don’t know why you are so angry. i did read your topic an di am sorry to hear what happened. but i think you are mistaken we could not be possibly talking about the same person. love is a blessing form Allah not shaitan.
if you dont mine id rather not mention where i met my love. and no we haven’t met yet. inshallah we plan on meeting, and that’s when i will make her my wife
no offence brother, but maybe that’s why your wife is cheating on you. you seem to be a very angry sort of person a woman needs to be treated with love and affection, not daant dapat.
you wont have any choice if she asks for khula from you. she had every right Islamically to do so.
i have said nothing that is not true. maybe it’s time you look at yourself to figure out where you went wrong, rather than point fingers at everyone else.
This is just disgusting. How can you even think about being in a relationship with a married person? If she told you that she's married, if she confessed to you, then you should leave her. If she is having such an affair with you, how many others do you think she has acted the same way with? Have you ever considered that?
You need to distance yourself from her. She lied to you outright, she had kids for God's sake! I know it'll probably be hard to move on, but you've to gather enough strength and get yourself out of, an otherwise very sticky situation. You'll find someone better.
lol realy mufti saab at his best....so wait you r in love with mufti's wife or wat the heck is going on here. But yea on a serious note you need to get over her, sure you love her but doesnt mean you have to be with her. Shes married and has two kids. you will be ruining alot of lives with this relationship. Also I agree you cannot trust someone like that, she lied to you about he most important things in her life, screw husband she lied about her kids! it makes me doubt about her character, she doesnt really seem to be a good wife or mother as she has all the time to sit on the computer and chat rather than looking after her kidss also would your family approve? your just getting into a deep mess.
Hold on is the phadda between Multi and Osmosis for real??. If it is then Osmosis buddy..you better get your act together. If there was any manliness left in you..you could have walked away if you found that she is married with two kids. What you saying is lust..and definitely not love.
this will be a long post. i apologizez for that.
