A house or a home?

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Re: A house or a home?

@chips6

It takes time and like any other task in life,you learn as you grow.
When we got married we never had a lot.Just the basics,regarding everything… …in your words,an undecorated house.It might not have been beautiful to look at for others,but I have fond memories of that tiny apartment because that is where we started.
Not to sound like boasting,but my parents’ house had pretty much everything I never had in the initial years pf my marriage.BUT I also know that when they started their lives some 35 years ago,they never even had what I had to start with and they very lovingly built the place we cherish and love today.
In a few years we had more stuff,the decorations and all and later on moved houses…bought more stuff as we moved on in life.

I am not sure why you say that not many newly weds do a good job at it…because for sure it takes time.
And I still feel that we are ‘making’ our home every single time we do something.First it was the 2 of us,last year after we had our daughter our perspective kinda changed,in a good way.

IMO there is not a fixed number of years that it takes to make a home..it is an ongoing process.You learn everything as you go and grow as a person,as a spouse and then later as a parent…
And you don’t have to possess material things to make a space a home.Love,respect and understanding and patience does that..!

All the best…!!

Thanks for a lovely reply. I just mean that I recently saw a house of a couple who have been married for quite a while, around four years and I understand not having material things enough to put into a house, but Id expect that you keep your home tidy and make do with less, rather than allow it to look like a clutter. I myself was just feeling overwhelmed by the effort it takes to make a house look like a home. Plants and pictures and good rugs go a long way though, what do u think?