A good new BAHOO can change the atmosphere of the household...

Lifestyle Relationships
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:salam:

Its really amazing…

I know of this family back home…which was mashallah in the beginning a very large family, six brothers and sisters…and all very healthy mashallah, having cousins and grandparents around and income also not too poor, their life was happy…

everybody loved going to their house coz they were so nice and hospitable and so much fun…un k ghar mein hameshaan bohot ronaq hoti thee…

but then slowly and gradually it was like un ke ghar ko kisi ki nazar lag gayi…first the father got unemployed…then marriage of two of the siblings who had a watta satta turned really bad and they were having major problems in the marriage…

then one of the siblings passed away at a very young age in twenties because of an accident…

that specially caused the whole house to plunge in gloom and depression…everyone was depressed, some of them sufferred health wise, the mother developed heart problems, the son dropped out of college, father was a shatterred man…

household things like cooking and cleaning were not even being taken care of, everyone was in their own worlds…

just absolute depression n gloom in the household…

then the two siblings who had watta satta, their marriage was becoming worse, and they got divorced…with kids…

it was all really really bad…everyone started saying k in ke ghar mein toh ab janay se hi ghabrahat hoti hae and ab un ke ghar ka mahol hi sogwar ho gya hae…nobody smiles or laughs…

hmm…well, recently, the guy who got divorced, got married to another girl…it was an arranged marriage…and the guy was like in mid thirties, girl in early thirties…

and i havent visited them myself but everyone at home tells me that that lady, ever since she came into the household, she has completely changed the mahol of the house…

there is genuine happiness in the house…it has reutrned…she takes care of everyone, actually cooks food at the proper times and takes care that the nokars r cleaning the house properly…

the two parents r also seen happier than before…and just generally everyone is much much happier and the life has returned to the house…

ofcourse the one sibling who passed away can never return and that pain is always going to be there for that family…

but she has driven away the gloom of the house and everybody has noticed it…

it was amazing to hear that one lady, who joined the family, in such a situation could change so much in the household and bring things back to life…mashallah…the girl really thought this new home was her home and reformed it…all girls want to do that and it takes a lot of patience…but its amazing that unhon ne waki ker k dikhaya…i’m really impressed with her..n happy for that family…

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irem i think u will turn out too be a pretty good bahoo too..but ek baat hai..bolti bohut ho :)

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really??? :blush: thankoo :hula:

p.s. kyun na bolon Allah ke karam se apni zaban hae :stuck_out_tongue:

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I am also looking for a pretty good bahoo too! :halo: i mean for my parents! :hehe:

That is good to read…the kaya-palat of the family i mean :k: Hmm, it’s amazing to hear that one person can make a meaningful difference the lives of so many :k:

The Power of One! :jhanda:

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As far as I remember your parents have already got “a” bahoo. You don’t need another one for your brother. Do you? :stuck_out_tongue:

irem, are you looking for a good bahoo too.

It’s interesting to hear comments “actually cooks food at the proper times” from a girl. I remember a girl told me when a guy asked her if she could cook she said if you can repair the car then I can cook too. :hehe:

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:wsalam:

Irem :slight_smile:
it was such a good thing to read …!!

well , its not a good bahoo only …but always a good person does make a change for good …lucky family …got this good person …good for them :slight_smile:

a good atmosphere in everywhere …depends on you n me …if we r bad we will make the place hell …but otherwise it might be a living paradise :slight_smile:

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Yeh qom aur yeh mulk kabhi tarraqqi nahee karayga. People still think that a successfull woman's role is to cook and clean. This economy is riding on one wheel. No wonder it crippples down every now and then. Why don't women ask / demand men to do their equal share?.

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khan bhai: ham bhi to pare hain rahon main :wave: hamari file bhi to oopar aane do yar! :halo:

:stuck_out_tongue:

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by funguy: *
Yeh qom aur yeh mulk kabhi tarraqqi nahee karayga. People still think that a successfull woman's role is to cook and clean. This economy is riding on one wheel. No wonder it crippples down every now and then. Why don't women ask / demand men to do their equal share?.
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agree for the first time. faints

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by funguy: *
Yeh qom aur yeh mulk kabhi tarraqqi nahee karayga. People still think that a successfull woman's role is to cook and clean. This economy is riding on one wheel. No wonder it crippples down every now and then. Why don't women ask / demand men to do their equal share?.
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Oh, how true! :)

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:k:

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Irem Gi...

It was a very good example for all the gals. BUT I will also be on gals side bcoz.. Its not only that a newly married Gal can make the House a Heaven, but also the family.
Normaly wat happend in our society is.. that.. the family even dont want to give time to BAHOO to get settled. Offcourse she had left her Home and she is ne new environment, its natural that she will need some time.
For the example of the Family... As U mentioned.. that was a good family in first place wat they needed was the ignition or Spark of Love in their life.. and.. the BAHOO was that spark and they Welcomed the Spark with Love.

So.... Taali Aik Haath Se NaheeN Bajti :)

Offcourse credit goes to BAHOO... BUT.. sometimes Buhut Achi Bahoo Bhi... Kuch NaheeN kar sakti...

Sab Gals Ke Liye Dua Go... ;)

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What is bahoo?

Got it :)

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ohh wow…ive always wanted to be good…to take care of people ta ke kisi ke moun pe mere liye koi shikayut na hou…and i want to be a very good and caring buho..that is * if* i get married…:snooty:…hehehe…wiasey very nice to read Irem Baji…thank u…:k:

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A very nice read, Irem. :k:

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interesting to read..

sometimes this create a problem later on for new additions to the family as i have noticed...my ammi was the first baho in all the relatives/extended family..and she was very nice in every aspect..all the relatives were happy with her..so when other ladies in the family started looking for their bahos..my mom always seemed a role model for them..and now that we have moved out of the country..but still whenever we go..other new bahos of my abbu's phuphos complain to ammi..kay bhabhi aap kia ghol kar pila gaen theen meri saas ko..sub koi aap kay gun gatay hain abhi tak. So, sometimes when people see a perfect model..they have high expections from others too.

Alhumdullilah so far all my relatives have good bahos..including my phupho and khala. It feels so nice to see everyone living together in peace and harmony :)

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Good read :flower1:

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by funguy: *
. Why don't women ask / demand men to do their equal share?.
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That is 'too much' to ask for! :-)

ps.
nice read