Re: A good friend considering divorce...
no need to analyze the situation. there might be other aspects involved that diva's friend hasn't shared with her for privacy reasons. you never know what the heck is really going on.
best not to judge, and just provide any support and help she needs. she's a big girl - she's got a right to live the life she wants and make decisions without people making assumptions about her.
Re: A good friend considering divorce...
now is she married to him or was she adopted by him? also, "much" attention? what does that mean? does she expect him to be there with her 24x7? That's seems excessive, the hubby probably wants some space. Just hang out with friends and have a guys night out. No harm in that..
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Typical desi drama queen behavior from her; she should show mercy and divorce the man; why drown him with herself.
Re: A good friend considering divorce...
I know someone very close to me. She actually has been having issues with her hubby (who is actually a pretty introverted person) for about 10 yrs now. Y (hubby) has often raised his fingers on X's (her) character. He insulted her whole khandan, told her to get out of the house. Doesn't t talk to her @ all, doesn't give her any money to survive, doesn't let her wife find a rishta for her daughter who is only 24 and says her age to get married has passed.
She actually took a step two months ago and left the house with her 4 grown children. She bought a house before she left. But when she moved in, felt awfully guilty. So she asked her son to call Y. The son called him but there was no response. Y called them back after a month and asked his son to comeover. So he did, they hugged and the father cried and told his son that it took him a month to get out of depression and said he though he would bring his mum. Therefore, the son called her mum and asked her to get ready, he brought his father to their house. The father talked to them and said i never knew u would leave me all by myself. They asked him to stay with him but he replied by saying, what if they threw him out of this house, where would he go. So he left their house and went back.
I cant believe what she did next, she actually went back to her hubby with her kids. She said she will listen to his curses and would live her life the way she used to.
Anyway my point: Has ur friend think through it. I hope she doesn't take a step that she later regrets. Has she actually talked to him about the issues?
Good Luck to her
Re: A good friend considering divorce...
^ Despite their difficulties there is obviously still love there between them all.
Re: A good friend considering divorce...
arshad, if your wife did all that crap to you, would you take her back too?
Re: A good friend considering divorce...
^ Well PC what you heard above is one side of the story. Obviously there is more to it than just that, otherwise the woman would not have gone back.
The answer that you are looking from me is that I would not accept the situation as a man. Then you would say why should the woman then accept the same situation. As I have already explained there is more to the story then we know. There is still love in the relationship and when you have kids you have to think about their future as well. Barring some exceptional circumstances each couple should try to work things out. You cannot just change partners and be necessarilly happy. Each couple has to work on a relationship and do what they think is right for them.
Going back to the original question...however when a decision has been made it should be followed sooner rather than later.