i have been noticing alot of posts where ppl don’t want to get married, they dont’ like the way their parents handle situations and what not
i just wanted to say that, i think marriage is a blessing from Allah(SWT), really we usually take stuff for granted, we try to be negative on every situation… its a human nature..
think about it, Parents are like shadow upon us, they care about us and yes sometimes that can be over too much but that’s just coz they love YOU
i remember, whenever i got mad at some decision by my mom and tell her that it made no sense to me she used to tell me that “jubh tum baap bano gaye na tub pochoon gi tum sey!”,
now Allahamdulliah, i have a girl in my life that i love, and care about, and so does she, i have told my parents about her and they just have placed couple of old traditional conditions upon it.. but i have stayed in my limits.
marrying someone at 22 or 34 doesn’t make a difference.. marriage wont’ harm ur career.. coz that career that u r running after i am giving u 100% assurance that u will forget about it once u get married and have fun with ur family. Enjoy ur life ppl, share ur smiles with someone!
PS: i knw i might have went off topic in the middle so i apologize for that, just wanted to get this out of my system. Sorry if you felt like this was a waste of ur time.
well u wont find me complainin bout any of the stuff u mentioned..i love my parents and i am glad that i had my nikkah with someone special..Allah naz-re-bad say bachaye bas :)
i have some feelings against marriage but it has nothing to do with my parents.
MashAllah my parents have been married for over 30 years and they are doing well. they have always had a great marriage.
but its my own experiences in life that have brought me to the conclusion that marriage probably is not for me!
but thanks for your 2 cents!
i think u r absolutely right,,
i also did not wanted to marry but now i am so happy.and one reason for this is that every time i go to my father i saw this happiness in this eyes and that even makes me more happy
In fact, many a times they end up ruining the lives of their children without even realizing it (know many individuals whose lives have been ruined).
Like you mentioned, best is to voice your opinion and stick to it, insha’Allah.
It’s sad how some people give in to their parents and are all up for ruining their lives in obedience to their adults while fully/partially knowing that their parents may be doing more harm than good to them.
Anyway, marriage is a blessing. I guess it’s a personal choice to get married sooner, later, or never. It’s different for every individual.
Alhamdulillah, I love and respect my parents. I try to be as obedient as possible, but there are things where I have to take a stand and do what I believe is right/best for me.
I agree with the last two posts..Parents of course mean well, and only want the best for their children..BUT at the same time they dont know their children as well as they think they do..Parents, sometimes try to make up for lost time and hope the peson they choose for them will make them into the person they want them to be..instead of merely making a suggestion and just accepting their children for who they are..
50-B,
You explained that sooo well. Many times, my parents suggest certain opinions for my life (schooling, career, marriage options) based on things that would have been appropriate for me when I was younger.
It is as though now that I am older, they do not see the adult I am becoming - instead, they base many opinions on the child that I was.
I love and respect my parents, but they do not always know me as well as they once did.
