what should u do when u know that one of ur really good friends is doing something silly and they know they are being silly too?
can u stop urself from getting involved or taking action when u constantly see ur friend lowering themselves and getting hurt all the time? Or do u think you should just stay out of it?
If you know this person would never ever let u be in the same position as they are in, and even admit it to u.. then why do u think they themselves cannot pull themselves out?
Sometimes it is very difficult......
Just keep your friendship in front of you....if it's going to harm it...then it not worth it to get bold or brave...& tell them unnecessary things.......
I think sometimes with some friends it's about just being there when they need you, when they need someone to say "there, there, it'l be ok"
It's not really about staying out of it, its more of a case of you know that they are old enough to know better. You can't be accountable for every mistake they make. Its usually easier to preach and tell others how to live their lives and what to do rather then sit and look at yourself. So many times iv found myself gving a friend advice and know that the advice applies to myself aswell. I find it easier working through things on my own, i'l share all my thoughts and feelings but will usually never take anybody elses advice. Not because i know its wrong, but because i know i can figure it out myself.
Its kind of silly sometimes as it takes me a long time to figure out just what i need to do, but i get there in the end.
Maybe thats what your friend needs, someone to advise her but eventually she'l figure it out for herself.
I've always intervened and pulled them out of it and in the bargain lost their friendship...but they're better off now...and they admit it too..but can't salvage teh friendship now
see, i cant even see myself giving advice anymore cus i know my advice is not being listened to all. All i get is "i know i know.." and thats it. Hence for about a year and half, i stopped giving it altogether and let things just be... but the situation is getting out of control where i find this genuinely awesome person stooping and belittling herself... all for what? nothing.. i asked her yesterday.. what exactly is it thats not letting her move on... "i dunno"
LK, the last time i ever intervened was when i was 13.. and i learnt from then that no matter how right u must think u r.. ur friend is never gonna understand.. so i stopped from then..
really? I dunno with me, my yaarni (best friend) usually listens to me, which is ironic cuz she two years older than me so you’d think she’s wiser (she is lekin you no wat i mean)…khair maybe what causes her to listen to me is that whatever happens to me…WILL happen to her…aur yeh sirf ek do daffa nahin huwa, it always happens. Jo bhi mere saath hoga kuch na kuch uske saath bhi hoga…I mean mein pakistan gayi…wahan kiya kiya nahin huwa..so I come back and I tell her ke Hira aise aise hoga (cuz we were both going after a long time, although I went in the summer and she went in the Winter)…aur kiya huwa…she comes back aur ro ro ke wohi kahani suna ti hai…jo meine usko sunai…uff
but in the end I guess it all depends how close you are to the person. Anyone can give advice, lekin for me it depends on how much I trust and love that person for me to listne
I dunno sadz...I think of it this way..eithe rI'll have a friend who'll be in a bad state that I knwo I couldve helped aviod and then it makes me not a real friend.
I'd rather he/she abouse me and then remeber me in their prayers for helpign em out than not help and let someone I love ruin themsleves just so they can be nice to me.
hehe thats great Sabeila... yeah the situation here is though rather icky :)
LK, i dunno mate.. ive tried my level best at giving sound advice and also got another friend whose a lot stronger than me and a lot more verbal to speak to her (we're a group of 3 close friends).. but it hasnt helped one bit..
when someone simply refuses to listen to ur advice.. no she does listen.. its basically like doing a whole semester worth of a subject and in the end making no use of the skills gained.. aagh i dunno..
lol trust me...I've prolly been thru it or no someone who has....aaj kaal laag raha hai saab log kissi na kissi mushkil mein paase huwe hain :(....all the best though :)
yeah i KNOW for a fact a few others are having the same problem.. the halarious thing is this same friend is giving them advice, and not even bothering to listen to herself!! haha
