Hello everyone,
I have a few questions for those ladies on this forum who are actually married. At the age of 23, I realize that I am getting closer to where you all are right now. My parents are sincerely looking for the right match, and I’m doing the same. If all goes as planned, Insha’Allah, I will be married within a year. Since I am most likely going to go through a rishta/arranged marriage process, and don’t know what to expect I have the following questions for you. I hope you can kindly answer. 
(1) What was being newly married just like?
Seriously, I dont know, how fast the beginning months passed by. I was mentally numb 
(2) How was the transition of falling in love with your spouse?
I fell in love with him when he was not my spouse.. 
it was a love marriage, ACTCHOOOLY 
(3) Were there any fears that you had? How were they resolved?
No fears about anything, I knew I was going in safer hands
(4) What do you think is the key to a happy marriage?
Early months are very important for a girl in order to keep a happy marriage life. I would suggest you (and girls like you) to keep observing the surroundings without giving them (your inlaws or your husband in case of an arranged marriage) your opinions and views. Sometimes, its good to reserve your opinion.
Also, respect your husband and value his opinions. Even if he gives you the free will, try to do what he expects from you.
If he is angry, stay quiet for that moment even if you think he’s wrong! (Learn it! Most of the Guys NEVER like to be called, WRONG). You should know the way how your husband can feel his mistake. Also, its not necessary that he’s on mistake, may you be at the wrong side too thats why hold your statements or arguments before getting into anything, think alone and always be ready to accept your mistake. There are lot more…phew…!!
(5) Are there are recommendations you would have for a girl like me (when it comes to a spouse search)? If so what would they be?
Dont judge a book by its cover! all said!!
Please add in anything else you’d like! I have a fear of marriage in many ways. I don’t know what to expect, and neither do I feel it will be easy to get used to the life. So I am in dire need of all sorts of mental preparation.
Thanks in advance. 