Re: A deviation from the "I am sad and hurt" thread...
So what should a couple do when they both meet after a long day of work? Don't talk to each other and share concernes?? Don't share what happened during the day and laugh together on silly things?
Is it better to just eat dinner and check work related emails watch tv and go to bed?
Since when do talking to you spouse become nagging?
I don't think anyone is saying don't talk to your spouse. But there is a BIG difference is saying to your husband what you did during your day...or about something funny that happened or even asking how HIS day was....as opposed to giving him list of things he needs to do (ie. take me here, why didn't you do this, I need you to do this, I need money for insert want) etc.
A mutual conversation is fine....giving him a list of things that he needs to do or has not done almost daily as soon as he comes home isn't (especially if he seems stressed or upset).
Re: A deviation from the "I am sad and hurt" thread...
Are most of these replies from people who are single??? Things aren't that simple in married life.
I go out a lot, do things on my own, have a small baby to take care of but I still need my husband's time. Nothing, no friends, no job, nothing can replace with my time with my husband. I do expect him to come home and spend some time with me and the baby, even if its just a short walk outside in our neighborhood or as simple as going to masjid together. I also dont' have fixed days of grocery shopping. If couples were to ignore each other and not get excited about spending time with each other.. then i don't know how marriages are going to last.
Having said that, there are days when I know my husband is tired and I cook him a nice dinner, he spends time with the baby, watches tv and goes to sleep. When we got married, one thing that we both agreed on was to never bring work related stress home and always cherish family time.
Re: A deviation from the "I am sad and hurt" thread...
Sometimes, its difficult to be understanding even though you are aware of the dynamics & challenges associated with the job your partner does. I don't really blame ourselves or them for it, its just the scenario that takes a toll at us sometimes.