A Compatible Match

[StrangeOne]

Re: A Compatible Match

@Sweetlildreams

I forgot how judgemental and narrow minded our desis are! I appreciate all your comments as I do need to know how others ‘see’ this scenario.
College degree means nothing these days. I went to uni, had 9-5 job and ended up quitting it because I felt like I am missing on my life, my family, and will always have to work 9-5 to pay bills.
I became an entrepreneur, started my own business and make much more than any college degree could give me. Our business was growing and I couldn’t do it alone myself. She became partners with me because she enjoyed it as well and knew sky is the limit if we worked together as a team.
We didn’t want to send her to College so she could be marketable for rishtas. We would rather stay away from people like that who generalize high school with paindu and college degree with smart. She is smart and kind and that’s why so successful and loved. She is also an Introvert and bookworm and hasn’t had much interaction with boys, that’s why the hesitation but again, she is only 19 and will grow out on that as well. Sending her to college just for that reason doesn’t seem right.
Let me know if you have any other suggestions.

I was warning you off against people who’re anti learning but I guess I didn’t need to. There are people who want a malleable girl who they can bend to their will and they’ll obviously go for the girl with little real life experience.

A lot of people go to university to learn not to make money. Even my cook’s daughter (in pakistan) has a master’s degree in English literature. She doesn’t want to work/teach (she tried and got bored). She just wants to learn. She reads and discovered so many new hobbies and ideas from her teachers and peers that have zilch to do with her degree. Her marriage prospects have limited quite a bit because people don’t like over educated girls in her community but I don’t think she gives a rat’s ass. Her degree is for herself alone.

And it sounds like you’re making decisions for her rather then letting her experience for herself. Just because you didn’t like the experience doesn’t mean she will not either. She only knows what you say and obviously she’ll blindly follow her older sibling. If money’s not an issue then a fun degree in something she’s interested in is not going to hurt. At this point her family is the main reason why she’s introverted so are we supposed to tell you how to protect her from them?

Also If you think she’s not old enough to make her own decisions then she’s not old enough to get married. The math is quite simple.