Re: A Compatible Match
Schooling is not just a means to make money…its a means to broaden horizons and cultivate growth of character, personality, mindset, etc. I am actually really surprised reading this thread…I didn’t know people in the States were so opposed to education and growth.
I know a lot of girls who got married very young but most all of them say they wish they had waited and gone to school, experienced life, etc. I wouldn’t rob her of that…she won’t say much as she doesn’t really know any better.
My suggestion is…please let her make the decision if college is best for her or not. It seems you find her so masoom she cannot be trusted to make good choices for herself. She can. I just attended a baby shower of a 19 year old girl. She got married because her parents assumed she wasn’t bright enough for college and too seedhi saadhi. It was sad to hear that from parents and siblings.
And as far as rishtay…well…a guy who spent his life becoming something will probably have expectations. Meaning, if he went to school, he will want a woman who he has something in common with…not someone he has to explain things to. The guys in the States are similar to your sister…they are looking for someone with a more Western mentality. Just like your sister, it will be awkward for them to be married to someone who didn’t have similar experiences. Its not about marketability. Its about nurturing her growth. If you stunt it, you also stunt her chances of finding someone. Most educated families in the States are also looking for other educated families.
I appreciate your responses. I want nothing but the BEST for her. I personally never felt college = wisdom but I do understand your point. We have a lot of thinking and decision making to do with her.