Re: A Compatible Match
On one hand, you want someone who’s compatible with your sister, and on the other hand you talk about things that contradict your own statements. Nowhere has anyone said that a college education = $$$$$. Instead everyone has emphasized what a positive experience it is for a young woman to attend a college, and experience things that she would never get a chance to do so again in her life. That’s the only way she can get out of her shell, and not live in her fantasy world, which is so bothersome to you. And sending her for further education does not mean that she has to attend a college out of state, or out of city. Heck even community college is good enough for new experiences. That way she can stay at home and learn and help you in your business.
But if by compatible you mean just an Pakistani-American guy, then they are available dime a dozen. But are they all going to be perfect for your sister? Probably not. Why? Because a high school graduate and a drop out’s mentality will not be the same as your sister’s, who is going to enter a binding relationship with some expectations. And those expectations can only be fulfilled if a guy is at least a bachelor’s. But a bachelor graduate’s mother does not want a high school graduate. The only reason she would want a high school graduate for her precious son is because she wants to mold her to her requirements, and have a girl who is not strong willed and will not reply back to her in laws when they will thrust upon her all the chores and responsibilities. Is this the life you want for your sister?
Also, the only people that I know that are ok with having a teenager for a bride are the super religious people, whose sons are also quiet young, and they believe in the early marriage is best Islamically rule. And these girls end up having children at a very young age, right after the other. Again, this is what I have observed. No where have you stated that your sister is religious herself. So even there, you’re not going to find a compatible match.
Agree